new here iam not sure what to do

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Registered: 04-27-2005
new here iam not sure what to do
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Thu, 01-18-2007 - 7:02pm
hello iam new here , my husband and i have separted , now for 2 months . i have my own apt now ,and our 3 kids . i have asked him for only 160 a week , when he should be giving me 220, he refused to give me any money instead he said he will go shopping , i told him no i can do my own shopping i feel like this is about control. i thought we could do this without going to court, but i think we have to . any advise. thanks shauna


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Registered: 03-14-2005
Thu, 01-18-2007 - 9:10pm
going shopping isn't going to help you pay for an additional bedroom when you need it...if you have to file papers, then do so...you may be happier you went that route in the long run anyways -
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Registered: 01-12-2007
Fri, 01-19-2007 - 10:21am

Shauna;

I'm new to the board too, and wanted to welcome you here!! I've found wonderful support in the short time I've been here!!

You're right. It is about control. Taking the initiative to leave, with kids is probably the hardest thing you will have ever done. He's looking at it as though since he cannot control the fact that his divorce is over, he'll try to keep a level of control in any way that he can. I know this because I'm right there with ya!!

I realize that for the kids sake it may appear that not going to court would be the best thing. None of us wants to drag our kids through a court case, but sometimes, it's the only way.

I would contact your attorney, if you don't already have one-find one, and explain the situation. You deserve to be able to feed your kids, keep them clothed, and the lights one, etc.

I hope I've helped a bit. I look forward to getting to know you better!!

Laurene