New here..... just venting

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Registered: 12-01-2005
New here..... just venting
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Thu, 12-01-2005 - 1:21pm
Hi everyone....this is my first post to this board. I am 32 year old mother of three and going through divorce. I was married to my X for 8 years and with him since we were 15 years old. Here are the details.... he left me when I was 6 months pregnant with our third child for the drug abusing, sleep with anyone nieghbor. He helps me very little with money (although I'm stuck paying all the bills) and takes his kids only every other weekend. He spends the night with her so me and his kids have to see his car parked in her garage. My oldest is 15 so she understands everything thats going on. At first I was so upset because I wanted to be with him and at that time he would lie and say he wasnt with her. Now, I have filed my divorce and am on my way to feeling better! There are no more tears and I actually feel good about being by myself. I can now enjoy my time with my children, family, and friends. I use to try to hold on to him and try to always keep in contact with his family. Once I realized that he wasnt worth holding on to I felt so much better. I hardly talk to his family and I now feel that something better is awaiting me. It is hard at times (more financially than emotionally) but I've left it in the Lord's hands. I know my children and I will prevail in the divorce proceedings. (he's fighting me on that as well) I'd like to hear from someone who is in the middle of thier divorce or already through it. I have my first court hearing on Jan 12th. I'd like to know what to expect. Thanks!
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Registered: 05-29-2003
Thu, 12-01-2005 - 2:24pm
Hang in there. It sounds like you are doing well emotionally. I'm sorry that your X doesn't seem to have your kids' best interests in mind. My STBX at least tries to hide that fact that his barely legal GF comes to visit him. He and I were able to essentially agree on everything before our hearing of temporary relief so I can't really give you an idea of what to expect in January. I'm 31, was with STBX, my first love for over 12 years. We have two children, 7 and 19 months.
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Registered: 12-01-2005
Fri, 12-02-2005 - 1:31pm
Thanks for your words of encouragement! It does make a difference when you can talk to other women who understand your situation. Thanks again and good luck!!!
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Registered: 03-19-2003
Sun, 12-04-2005 - 8:25pm
Hi Deanna.... Welcome to the board.... I'm glad that you found us.

Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~