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| Mon, 09-11-2006 - 9:52pm |
My husband approached me 4 weeks ago saying he didn't think he loved me anymore and that he could continue to live the way he was living. Basically living a lie I guess. He said he has been thinking about this for 4-6 months. I tried talking to him about the possibility that he was in a mid life crisis and for him to go get counselling and we could go to marriage counselling. He wanted no part in that. We have not been fighting, I thought all was ok. He was never distant or cold, I don't get it. We have two small kids, a 4.5 yrs old and a 2 yr old. The oldest is a daddy's girl and is going to be heart broken. I am totally heart broken and am still in love with him. We have been through a lot in our 9 years as a married couple. I am angry and hurt and confused. I don't really buy the reasons he is giving me. He says he feels he got into the marriage for the wrong reasons to begin with and makes it sound like we dated for a week then got married. We were together for a year before he asked me to marry him then it was another 9 months until we got married. He is just not making sense when he talks. When he told me he didn't want to go to counselling or to work on it I said fine then go get the papers drawn up. I wish now I would have just had a legal seperation done. I don't know if it would have changed anything but it all feels so fast. He is still living here, he sleeps in the basement. The rest of the time he is walking around here acting like all is normal and trying to have conversations with me about everyday life. It breaks my heart to even see him, I can't even look him in the face. It breaks my heart. I am pissed that he is being so selfish about this and he is going to make me be a part of breaking my daughter's hearts. It pissed me off. I want to run up to him and hug him and then beat the crap out of him at the same time. I have put a contract on a house and hope to close the 29th. I know I know why don't you stay where you are? We built this house together and it is really to big and I can't afford to stay here. I don't want to stay in a house that I thought was built with love but ended up just being a lie. It doesn't feel like home anymore. Anyway, just thought I would come and try and get some advice. Probably should have come here a week ago. Thanks for listening. Sorry so long.
Angela

Hugs, Brenda
Hi Angela... I'm with you... I don't buy it either.
Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~