New here so I thought I would say HI

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Registered: 11-28-2005
New here so I thought I would say HI
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Mon, 11-28-2005 - 12:53pm
Hello everyone. I found your site today poking around the internet. Obviously I was looking up divorce "issues" and came across you. I am going down that road. It is not scary to me anymore it has been almost 10 years of marriage and 8 of thoes years have been a struggle. In and out of counceling, you name it I have tried it. That is the problem it is always, Me trying. He still lies, on a daily basis and he can't stop spending $. I have finally excepted the reality that he does not want to be with me. I actully feel very empowered now that I have excepted this. I have amazing friends that love me and my children and a great family for support. It seems strange but I am excited to move on, I do worry about my girls, but I think that it depends on us and how we deal with it will be how they deal with it. Hopefully, I can keep him logical about it and that will help. They don't need to see fighting, I plan to make sure that doesn't happen. So heres to new starts and great days,
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Registered: 11-28-2005
Mon, 11-28-2005 - 1:52pm
Hello, I am new here to I just posted a message. I'm going through it right now and I am scared to death. After 14 years. It hurts so bad. I know it was my fault for what i did eight years ago, but he chose to stay and all his been doing is throwning back at me. He says the only way to get past this if for us to become swingers? Any advice?
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 11-28-2005 - 1:58pm
Greetings, and best of luck to you, Stella. It is not possible to have a relationship with someone who is being dishonest every day, and in ways which have a serious effect on you and your children ($). Stick around, loads of others here who share your feelings.