new here...a little of my story...

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new here...a little of my story...
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Wed, 03-16-2005 - 11:35am
Hi Everybody! I'm new to this board and in the beginning stages of getting a divorce. My X is not really and X yet, but he will be moving out April fools day. We are splitting up our things now. It's sad for me in some ways because I will miss having some things. I guess I'm sad that this phase of my life is over. My husband is not supportive to me in the ways that I need. So for that reason I am happy to let go. I'm also moving soon and breaking my lease. This is scary and happy, too. I'm moving onto a better life, and am happy to go there as it will better meet my needs. A new city for a fresh start I guess.
I feel like I have one foot in both doors. I am still living my out life, and yet have moved away form some things. I cannot imagine staying with my husband, yet the idea of seeing someone new is scary and foreign to me. I don't feel in that space yet. I feel ready to move like I will be there and yet I am not there yet...so here I sit in the in-between. I like it to some degree because I am glad to move on, and scared to about the unknown. So that is where I am hope others have been here too. I could use hugs. I also look forward to being here. This board feels like a good place for me to be right now.
~*Anna
In Love and Peace, Anna
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Registered: 01-27-2005
Wed, 03-16-2005 - 4:33pm

Hi Anna. I'm sorry you're going through a tough time. It sounds like you're ready for changes and I hope they are good for you!

I see in your info that you're in Wilmington. Are you still there? I'm down the road in Greenville.

Sending hugs along the way!

Ruth

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Wed, 03-16-2005 - 4:51pm

Hi Anna

I know what you're going through. It is very scary. I am 27, was with my husband since I was 21 and we've been married 2 and a half years. Everything fell apart for the last time in January and this time, I was ready to go, to end things once and for all. He never treated me very well, he has addiction problems with alcohol and recently to drugs as well. I always stood by him and supported him and he kept pushing me away. I couldn't handle it anymore, I was sad and unhappy all the time. We owned a house together and we have 2 dogs together. We had to divide all our stuff in half too and it was really hard. I miss some of my stuff too that he got. He moved out the end of January and I moved back into our house (I was staying with my parents). It was hard being there without him sometimes. We put the house up for sale and it sold within 2 days, way quicker than I imagined it would. The buyers wanted it within 2 weeks so I hardly had any time to figure out where I was going to move to. I found a condo a week later, bought it, and was able to move in the night before I had to be out of my house. So it has been a very hectic and life altering 4 weeks. I moved last week so I'm getting settled in my new place. Thankfully I got custody of our dogs, my babies, without them I don't know what I would do. Alot of changes in a short time. Sometimes I feel like it is all a dream and I will wake up and things will be back to normal. Although now I don't want to go back to that, I am now starting a whole new life. I am also seeing someone new who treats me like I've never been treated before- like a princess!!! I know its quick, but he has helped me get through all this and I really care about him.
So welcome to the board, and lots of hugs to you. Things will get better. I have to keep telling myself the very same thing everyday.

((hugs))

Jess

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Wed, 03-16-2005 - 9:53pm
Welcome, both to the board and to that really weird but so cool in-between place. It's fertile, stimulating ground because there's just you. You're maybe lonely, maybe feeling a bit inadequate, but free as a bird and hopefully curious. We've all been there and the majority of us are still there. Enjoy as much of it as you can. Glad you found us.
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Registered: 11-18-2003
Wed, 03-16-2005 - 10:36pm

(((((((((((anna)))))))))))))))))


Huge hugs to you Anna!

Hugs~ Lexi

"Shoot for the moon and if you miss you will still be among the stars" ~ Les Brown


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Thu, 03-17-2005 - 5:29pm
Yep...still here a few more weeks, then moving...how far away from me are you? I really don't know this state (where things are) very well.
In Love and Peace, Anna
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Thu, 03-17-2005 - 5:34pm
Wow...so much has happened to you in such a short amount of time. I'm glad that you are working your way through it all. Glad you found a place to live. Yes, I do think we are creating a new lives for ourselfs and that this will get better with time. I again, I'm glad to meet you.
In Love and Peace, Anna
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Thu, 03-17-2005 - 5:38pm
Thanks...I try to enjoy my life. There are many things in the works for me and I am enjoying going there. I also am enjoying where I now am...I'll be happy when my husband leaves, and my new life truely begings.~Anna
In Love and Peace, Anna
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Thu, 03-17-2005 - 8:29pm

I just wanted to say welcome to you Anna!

Melanie

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Registered: 01-27-2005
Fri, 03-18-2005 - 6:36am
It's about a 2 hour drive. Where are you moving? Do/Did you like Wilmington?