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| Mon, 09-04-2006 - 11:47pm |
Did you love my title? Pretty original, huh!
I could go on for days and days, but as I am sure that you all have actual lives,I just need opinions on something- my friends seem to be divided in their advice and this is all pretty terrifying territory.
My husband and I are separated, but currently sharing our appt. For obvious reasons, this can not last much longer. Because I can't afford the rent in our current place on my own, I am going to move out. My appt hunting has been interesting, let's just say because of my VERY limited budget. A married, pregnant friend with a little boy has offered me the use of her guest room for a few months. Both she and my soon-to-be ex think that this is the best option, because 1)it is cheaper than renting 2) I wouldn't have to sign a lease and 3) This is all pretty new and difficult and they seem to think it would be better if someone was there
I found an appt in my budget that I like- it's old, but I like the neighborhood and it is kinda cute. Now, I will have to sign a lease, skip the cable, ect, but I think I just want to be settled somewhere.
any thoughts for me? I'm terrified of making a mistake, of sitting in this appt, alone and sad, but I think I need to do it.

I would say if you've found something in your budget then grab it. Although this can be a very hard time to be alone, in the long run I think you'll fare better in your own place.
If this was a friend with not much going on right now I wouldn't worry too much about it, but since she and her husband are about to have a baby it may be best to avoid this situation.
Something that I found after my STBX moved out, and I had a place of my own for the first time in my life, was that it was nice to be able to start thinking about what I wanted for MY place. I've had enough people around me that even when I was alone I didn't feel like I had nobody. Invite people over to just hang out with you and make your new apartment a comfortable happy place to start over.
Good luck in whatever you decide to do. We're here for you. :-)
i agree with gwen. i don't know if moving in wtih a friend is what you need right now, especially with one toddler and another bundle of joy on the way. you might actually cope better with a peaceful environment.
make your new home - YOURS.... good luck
(((hugs))) I'm in a similar situation and trying to stay in the house we currently live in -- having to forgo all the extras and still not sure I can make it work. I wish there was somethign helpful I can stay, but you aren't alone...
Kate
No matter when you get your own place, it's gonna be your first own place. It's a hard move but it's a move forward. When I moved into my first apartment, I grabbed as many people as I couldn find to help out and we partied through it. A few weeks after settling in some relatives of mine threw me an apartment warming party. These are the memories that we have to start making. Our memories. It will be okay, but you have to be brave and take the first steps. Just think...it's your very own place. You can do whatever you want there, whenever you want. Decorate in your style, colors, etc. It will be fun and it will be okay.
Robin
HI there.... I think that if you can swing your own place, even if you have to be modest, I'd go for it.
Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~