New here...why is it so hard?
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| Thu, 01-10-2008 - 2:36pm |
I'm new to this board.
I've been married for 3 years now. My entire marriage has been an uphill battle. The first year I learned that he was addicted to pain killers...oxy and coke. We sent him to Seattle to attend treatment that cost over $15,000. When he came back we found out I was pregnant. He confessed the same day that he cheated on me while in rehab. Stupid me. I was emotional and took him back. (This whole "addict" world was new to me. I had no clue he was strung out 99% of the time)
During my pregnancy he cheated on me with random women. I found out when one of the hoes left a voice message giggling about how she lost a button in our car from their romp. He was suppose to be working. He was actually unemployed the whole time. Still is. He lost $5000 to online gambling.
He stays home. Eats. Watches porn. I pay for childcare for the little one because I personally didn't trust him to be responsible.
I finally decided to kick him out to his mothers house. I filed for divorce. All marital assets were mine before the marriage. My house was paid off before we met. He's cost me so much in money and emotion.
I know I'm making the right decision. But why is it still so draining? Like the future and all the dreams are gone?
I will never go back. Don't get me wrong.
Thank you for allowing me to vent.
Maelynn


Maelynn,
Yes you are doing the right thing. It's still hard for the very thing you mention: it's giving up the dream of what could have been. When we let go a person we also have to let go of all the things we hoped would be because of the relationship.
Use this experience to set your standards high and keep your radar up and going when you reenter the dating game. Addicted people are good actors. Know what you truly want from a man so in the future you won't settle for anything less.
Good luck and keep looking forward.
CL-Wisdomtooth2020
I am unable to give legal or medical advice. My opinions are based on my experiences and my personal research.
I am unable to give legal or medical advice. My opinions are based on my experiences and my personal research.