THE NEW MRS. RIGHT ALREADY

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Registered: 04-03-2007
THE NEW MRS. RIGHT ALREADY
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Fri, 10-31-2008 - 9:22pm
Does anyone have any advice for dealing with the new mrs. wonderful once youre divorced? Actually, this woman was in my H's life way before our divorce (found out later)..and is now a constant fixture every nite...every spare second. He has waived visitation to be with this woman..now wants to see our daughter less and less saying he needs his 'free time"....Openly flaunts their relationship by telling me how committed he is to her and how this is the "real thing"....funny, I've heard that before. I happen to know this woman--in fact--we were friends and she was the one who introduced me to my now ex and her now lover. How do you get over the anger, pain, humiliation...and at the same time keep your dignity? I'm afraid this will end in marriage---he tells me they are discussing it--by the way, we were just divorced last month. She has been married five times each time right out of one and into another and by the way, she was married too and he ink on her divorce is hardly dry.

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Registered: 08-17-2007
Wed, 11-05-2008 - 4:47pm
I've been married for 17 years. A year and a half ago STBX decided he wanted out. The sad thing is, I wasn't crushed. When we married I loved him but he treated me so crappy over the years (psychological abuse, not physical) that my love died little by little until it wasn't there any more. The last 5 years had been pretty much loveless with each of us going our separate ways. When he finally moved out life didn't seem any different with him gone than with him there, even to my kids. He comes to the house to do laundry and visit the kids about once a week now, maybe twice. We really don't have many problems getting along. He had recently traveled for a weekend. I could tell he wanted me to ask him about it so I didn't. Then the other day he was over to visit the kids. They were watching tv so he borrowed my laptop. He then went to his apartment and left his Google mail account open to a document and he was replying to his lover (that he apparently traveled to see on the weekend trip). It didn't really bother me much other than him leaving it open on my computer (really, don't email your lover on your STBX computer and if you do make sure to log out). I wondered if he left it open on purpose.

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