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Registered: 05-19-2008
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Mon, 05-19-2008 - 2:44am

Hi just thought I would try this site for some friendly feedback. Since my divorce 2 yrs ago,I have been feeling like I have no friends,at least no one I can trust to give me an honest opinion. Most people talk to me in a condescending tone,like I'm the most pathetic woman they've met.Sometimes I really feel that way too.My husband just walked out on our family.He lived in the area for a year or so,we have two kids,now teenagers,

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Registered: 11-29-2007
In reply to: jstar2008
Mon, 05-19-2008 - 5:57am

I have been post 4 yrs and its only now, am I more financially secure and financially independent.

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Registered: 11-28-1999
In reply to: jstar2008
Mon, 05-19-2008 - 11:10am

I guess I'm kind of confused about the house--if the house was vandalized, why didn't homeowner's insurance cover the cost of repairs?

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Registered: 05-19-2008
In reply to: jstar2008
Mon, 05-19-2008 - 11:31am
Thanks for your story and your kind words of support. It was reassuring to relate to your circumstances. I just hope I can out from under this black cloud like you did.
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Registered: 05-19-2008
In reply to: jstar2008
Mon, 05-19-2008 - 11:39am

I was given the house in the divorce settlement provided that I refinance.The insurance company sent me money but I had to use that to catch up on mortgage payments that I was behind in.Then the insurance co dropped coverage.Now I have a very basic plan from the mortgage co that's more expensive with minimal coverage.I was thinking of the deed in lieu of foreclosure but didn't know much about it.I'm looking into that now.


You're right I have to sit my kids down and talk to them about paying for some things themselves.I guess it just makes me feel like I'm losing control as a mom.I wanted to make things right for them after their dad left.I guess I just have to face the realization that I can't do everything myself.


Thanks for your message.

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Registered: 11-28-1999
In reply to: jstar2008
Mon, 05-19-2008 - 12:04pm
Just remember that the fact that you can't buy your kids everything doesn't mean that you're not a good mom.