new years eve

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Registered: 10-21-2005
new years eve
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Sat, 12-31-2005 - 4:01pm

I really didn't think New Year's Eve would be a problem...ex & I never went out ..

I kept thinking if I just get to New Years I will have past the year mark..I will have covered every occasion & will be able to handle it..I thought when new year comes so does a new start and I was looking forward to it..then why I am so upset & sad?

Ex is off on yet another trip with gf...my parents & sister are getting together for dinner (which I wasn't invited to)..and I have been with the kids for a week with no reprieve..

I just feel really alone..which ticks me off...I have 3 beautiful children..it is relatively relaxed around here...they are great kids..but I have to put in my all not to "mope" around them...

I'm going to try to have a special dinner...maybe do something special with the kids after..just wish I could get out of this funk!..Its only a DAY!

Annette

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Registered: 07-20-2003
Sat, 12-31-2005 - 5:10pm

I know how you're feeling. Hugs to you, and all others going through this!! My kids are with their Dad until tomorrow evening. I have no plans for New Year's, unfortunately. I called a friend earlier in the week to try to make some, but she didn't really want to talk to me. I think she's scared I'll go after her husband now that mine is gone-- NO THANKS! I called my sister to see if she and her husband wanted to go out, and she said no. She didn't invite me over to hang out either. My parent's are close by, but I'm feeling really too dependent on them lately for companionship.

It's hard this time of year. I thought I would die Christmas day without my kids. They left that day with their Dad and have been gone all week. It's the first week I've been without them. It took me awhile to get used to the weekends, but this was really hard. I spent most of the week in bed. I really thought that by now I would be feeling better about it all, getting used to it. It's been 3 months, so I guess it really hasn't been that long.

Happy New Year's to you!! I hope the year brings you much needed happiness (me, too!)!

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Sat, 12-31-2005 - 5:17pm

3 months!...at 3 mos I would have DIED if I didnt have my kids for a week..IMHO you are doing great!

I know what you mean about gf...everyone feels bad for you but some people don't want to get too close in case it is "catching"

I'm going to try to treat it like any other night...unless ex calls to talk to the kids ..then I will lose it!...I don't think he will take time out from his fun-filled weekend to call them so I won't have to worry about that.

Can you believe I'm not even out of my pj's yet!...horrible isnt it lol ..just dont have it in me today :)

(((hugs)))
Annette

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sat, 12-31-2005 - 7:33pm

I love the comment about it being catchy! I dont' think it's catchy, but in my life there were a rash of people getting divorced about the same time I decided to end my marriage. I don't think it's as contagious as it is liberating to see someone you care about ending something bad for them. You know what I mean? For me, my dear friend had left her neglectful H 6 months prior to me and she was doing so well and was so happy that I realized it wouldn't be the end of the world.

Melanie

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Registered: 10-21-2005
Sat, 12-31-2005 - 8:13pm

I didn't have anyone around me in this situation so I was/am at a loss..

while I was reading this my ex called the kids to say goodnight..he is away with gf..normally he wouldn't call but I'm sure it was just to let me know indirectly he was having a "good" time...or not...

I'm just bummed tonight...he has been seeing this girl for about almost a year & I can't get up the nerve to go on a date...I still catch myself wondering what happened to him/us..I just feel pathetic sometimes..

Sorry for being such a downer...my kids are summoning me..so Have a Happy New Year!!

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sat, 12-31-2005 - 10:49pm

Annette,

First of all, I want to send you some hugs... there will be days that for whatever reason, will be easier or harder than others, especially during the first year... The good news is that next year's NYE will probably be easier than this one... and who cares if you stayed in your jammies all day... we all have those days! :)

Sending lots of hugs your way...

Julie