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Registered: 05-15-2008
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Thu, 05-15-2008 - 9:42pm

Hi Everyone,
I am brand new to the boards and I'm really at a loss about where to begin.

About a month ago, I came home and my husband tried to start a fight with me. At the end of it, he left to stay in a hotel "for a few days". Then he moved into an apartment with a ridiculous rent payment (we have been living with my parents for 2 years!) and came and got his things. He is not interested in counseling or divorce. I think he is happy to be married but not live with or talk to me. I am not happy with this. I want a divorce-- but I don't know how to go about it. We've had problems for over a year-- no sex (cause I don't want to), he's got a rapidly growing alcohol problem and, not diagnosed, but I believe Narcissistic Personality Disorder. I'm ready to be done. What do I do first?!

Side note: We have been living with my parents for two years and he, conveniently, will be starting a job at a prestigious law firm next week-- where he will make upwards of $10K a month. I think that he was just using me and my family until he knew he had an income and could do whatever he wanted. He hasn't had a job since he started law school and I've been paying our car payment, insurance, utilities, etc the whole time.

What can I do? Would I be able to get any spousal support since my family supported him for practically our whole marriage? I really feel used.

Thanks for reading.

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Registered: 11-28-1999
In reply to: misssister423
Fri, 05-16-2008 - 12:29pm
I think the first thing you should do is get a lawyer ASAP because you can be sure he'll get one w/ his fancy law firm contacts. Then you can see if you can get alimony or some lump sum payment because you have been supporting him.
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Registered: 03-24-2008
In reply to: misssister423
Fri, 05-16-2008 - 4:48pm

I agree with musiclover.

It's okay to jump...you have wings! 

To move forward...you have to stop looking back.