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| Mon, 03-20-2006 - 4:19pm |
Hi everyone...
This is my 1st post here. I'm still trying to come to terms with what has happened to me. Long story short...
I'm 36 (soon to be 37) and I'm feeling like my world is falling apart. I've been with my husband for 4 years and two weeks ago was our 2nd anniversary. The reason my marriage broke up is because he betrayed/lied to me. I found out that he was stealing money from his employer and now is in jail. I was completely in SHOCK when I found out the truth. To make things even worse is that this isn't the 1st time he has done this. Apparently my husband has a crazy past that I knew nothing about. I feel like my life has turned into a Lifetime TV movie.
I hired myself two awesome lawyers who will handle the divorce (BTW.. he was served papers in jail the day before our 2nd anniversary). I'm seeing a therapist to help get me through this. I kick myself for wasting 4 years with this con man and feel like that any chance of happiness is over. I feel like he took away any chance of me having a family.
I'm here because I'm hoping someone can offer some advice of dealing with a divorce that you weren't expecting. This hit me out of left field. Sad part in all of this is I still love him and know that will take time to get over. Any advice or input you can give me. Thanks.

Hugs, Brenda
Brenda,
Thank you SOOO much for replying to my post. I'm sorry you too were hit with a divorce out of the blue. It is assuring to know that it will get better in time. While I do have family/friends here to talk to.. all they do is ask questions about him being in jail and about his past. I'm seeing a therapist once a week but also thought if there were message boards (THANK GOD for this) that I also get support.
I have this board in my favorites so I'm NOT going anywhere.
Melissa
HUGS and welcome. You've found a great, supportive community here. We're glad to have you.
I am glad you've retained legal counsel. That's one huge hurdle out of the way.
Good luck!
Thank you so much for the reply. I am going to look into counseling as well. I'm thinking that maybe that will also help. I have an appt with my therapist and will ask her about it. Not sure even where to find such a support group. You're so RIGHT about my emotions in despair, shock, disbelief, sadness. My emotions change so drastically.
I'm so happy and thankful I found this board.
Hello...
It certainly isn't an easy time, but I am encouraged to hear of some of the steps you have taken... I can assure you that what you're feeling right now is completely normal... all of the swings... The thing I would encourage you to do is allow yourself to feel what you're feeling... if you're happy show it, but if you're having a rough day, don't put on a brave face for the world... let yourself have that and get through it...
It is great that you've all ready hired attorneys and found a therapist... both important pieces of the puzzle... just remember to take it one day at a time, and come back often...
*hugs*
Julie