Newbie...Separated One Week & Sad

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Registered: 05-17-2008
Newbie...Separated One Week & Sad
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Sat, 05-17-2008 - 1:10pm




Hello,


Well, I'm sitting here crying as I write this post.

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Registered: 10-25-2006
Sat, 05-17-2008 - 1:32pm

Suzi,


Glad you found us here!


First and foremost, you aren't the "loser" or the "failure" here. Your husband is.


Obviously, he isn't capable of being faithful. Too bad he's such a jerk.


My advice you to is find a support group to join or find a counselor to talk with. Many churches offer divorce support groups or check with your community mental health center.


I'd also advise you to seek the advice of an attorney. You need to know your rights and responsibilities, if you divorce. Get together you financial documents, bills, and other household information to take to the lawyer.


Get help and get information to make decisions about your future.


And, keep in mind, your not a loser or a failure, but I think your husband has been forgiven enough. Time to move on and let him go.


Best wishes,

CL-Wisdomtooth2020


Some commonly misspelled words on this board:


You're = contraction of "you are"; You're going away?

CL-Wisdomtooth2020

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Registered: 12-19-2001
Sat, 05-17-2008 - 2:16pm

Welcome to the board.

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Registered: 05-17-2008
Sat, 05-17-2008 - 4:23pm

Hi Suzi,


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Registered: 04-01-2003
Sat, 05-17-2008 - 8:25pm

Hey Suzi


I just wanted to post my support. I just put my post up and my situation is sort of similar. I kicked mine out at the end of october due to a similar situation. I foolishly took him back in february and now im back to crying again. My only child has grown and just went off to college at the same time, so im completely alone, and in a new town so dont know anyone. Its overwhelming.


Anyway, im here if you need someone to talk to; maybe we can help each other through.
:--(


 

"I've learned
that it is the weak who are cruel,
and that gentleness is to be expected
only from the strong."

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Registered: 04-29-2008
Sun, 05-18-2008 - 11:15am

Hi


. I thought I was the happiest married person ever. Then i found out my husband was doing drugs (cocaine). He was a partner in a succesful brokerage firm. No one knew, his partner, family etc...Our daughter had just left for college. I sent him to rehab, threw him out. He fell in love in rehab and now is getting married. I then got invoved with a semi married man(separated but living in his house)....had a great time, until he had to figure his life out...I couldnt get out of bed...I saw a great therapist...went on a happy pill...and now have started to live again...Its hard but you have to move on..Noone knows what tomarrow will bring. Try and just functon...and go on match.com....Look for a date..it will make you feel better


Good luck

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Registered: 05-19-2008
Mon, 05-19-2008 - 8:00pm

Hi,


The same thing sort of happened to me.

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Registered: 05-20-2008
Tue, 05-20-2008 - 3:40pm
I found a great local separated/divorced support group through Meetup.com, as well as other meetup groups related to my hobbies and interests -- these have really helped me as I deal with my recent separation.