Newly divorced and in need of help

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-06-2004
Newly divorced and in need of help
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Tue, 07-15-2008 - 8:23pm

My marriage of 8 years is over. I don't know how to even being to cope with this. All I can think of is getting him back. I know I am the reason to blame for our separation but I never thought it would come to this. First I never received any subpoena in the mail or via process server, so no I didn't see it coming. We were separated and I moved in with my mother but I thought it was temporary. I thought we would get back together. Now he has a girlfriend but he keeps sleeping with me. I ask if we can get back together but he says time heals all wounds and maybe in the future but as of right now he says no. He invites me over occasionally and he seems to miss me but he still says that he is hurt. I love him more than ever and I can't cope with the fact that he's seeing someone else and still sleeping with me.

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-28-2008
Wed, 07-16-2008 - 3:49am

I am sorry for your pain.

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-22-2004
Wed, 07-16-2008 - 9:41am

I agree with alady.

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-28-1999
Wed, 07-16-2008 - 11:52am

To be really blunt--he keeps seeing you cause you're willing to have sex w/ him.

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-06-2004
Thu, 07-17-2008 - 7:26pm
No we for not have any kids together. I though about seeking a therapist to help me sort out my issues. I love him so much and I want him back, Yes I realize that it is not right for him to be sleeping with both of us at the same time. He keeps calling me and talks about nothing, I think he just misses me. I thank you for your honesty and yes I do need to cut loose and begin coping with living without him.
iVillage Member
Registered: 06-28-2008
Fri, 07-18-2008 - 7:37am

Christina,


I had the same issue with my first husband.