Newly seperated.

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Newly seperated.
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Tue, 02-06-2007 - 4:51am

Hi,

I am just recently seperated. Actually 2 days separated. I don't know if we will get divorced but it is looking like it.

We did try marriage counseling and I thought we were doing ok. He felt we were sliding back into our old habits and made arrangements to move out last week. He hit me with all of this on Sunday night after I got home from work. I know I haven't been the best wife. I held affection and sex from him for a number of years.

I have made an appointment with a therapist on thursday. I have issues that I need to work on.

I am just not sure now how to handle things like finances, our house, the kids. I have been a SAHM for the last 9 years just working part time.

I am not sure if this is the right board to post on but I am at a real loss as to what to do next. If anyone knows of another board that might be a better fit please let me know. I couldn't find one when I was looking.

Thanks,
susan

Susan, mom to Sam 11 and Connor 9
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Registered: 11-28-2006
In reply to: sselwa
Tue, 02-06-2007 - 10:17am

Welcome! You are in the right place. This is a great board. Lots of support. Will say more later, but gotta try and get some school work done (back in school so I can go back to work to support my kids). I too am a SAHM; been out of work for 6 1/2 years. In the early stages of planning separation/divorce. It is hard.

Stick around. There is lots of wisdom here!

M

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Registered: 05-05-2005
In reply to: sselwa
Tue, 02-06-2007 - 11:42am
I have also been a SAHM for six yeaers. It is really hard not knowing what will happen. I am going to college right now. I am moving out this week. The state offers lots of help while I am in school. I hate depending on the state and CS but I have to do what I must to finsh me college so I can raise my kids without having to depend on anyone. I am moving in with my dad until a govt. appartment comes avalible. It was the best I could do. I hate having to live with dad but I was very limited in what all I could do at this point. I know sometimes you have to go back inorder to get where you want to be in life. Stbx is a cheater and I gave him many chances to stop. Things were great between his affairs but he always found someone knew. I finally gave up on him. Good luck. You should look into what your state has to offer in help.

 

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