Newly seperated--need to vent and help!

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Registered: 08-11-2004
Newly seperated--need to vent and help!
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Mon, 10-17-2005 - 9:19am
My husband and I have been seperated for 4 weeks now. We still talk almost daily, we have a 3 year old together and 3 days after he left we found out we were pregnant. He started being "friends" with some girl 13 years younger than him right around the time of our seperation--he SAYS that they have not crossed the "physical" line, but who knows. Adultry is illegal in our state--I do know that, and I know that I can get him for it. I do not want a divorce. I want to fix our marriage, he knows that. We went to counselign for a couple of weeks together, now he has stopped going, and I go by myself. His dad has been very helpful to me through this as well--he is very active in his church and has alot of good beliefs and things to say that help. We have sat down with him a couple of times as well, and he is encouraging both of us to really look at what we are doing and realize what good things we do have with eachother and build on that. Problem is that girl! Of course! Aside from that though--we have argued quite a bit because he was wanting our 3 year old to meet her--I was adimant that she has no business or right to be around our son. He snuck behind my back-twice and took him to her house or to dinner with her. I of course found out and we sat down with his dad who helped him to realize that it is NOT in our sons interest to have him around her--AT ALL! So I think that is straightened out for now. I see a lawyer tomorrow just to find out what legal standing I have, and what my rights and options are. Like I said though--I do not want this.
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Registered: 03-19-2003
Fri, 10-21-2005 - 2:44pm

I'm glad that you are talking to an attorney.


Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~

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Registered: 04-02-2003
Sun, 10-23-2005 - 2:01pm