No contact easier?

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Registered: 03-28-2003
No contact easier?
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Tue, 06-14-2005 - 12:08pm

Hello,
I posted for the first time a couple days ago.My husband and I are separated and I will be leaving for the states, hopefully in a few weeks (my husband is in the Army and we are living in Germany). Because of some incidents that happened the local military police have put in a no contact order and we havent spoken or seen each other in almost a month.When I go back to the states I'm guessing it will stay that way.He has always told me that he isn't the type to "chase" a woman and that a woman has to come to him first, although his girlfriend loves to tell me how he begs her to stay with him and is always calling her.Since we have no kids I really don't ever have a need to ever talk to him again.It just feels weird.We have never gone more than three days in the last five years without talking, even when he was in Iraq.Now, its just like he couldn't care less...I'm nothing to him.I'm just wondering if its easier to get over when there is absolutely no contact. Any thoughts?

Brooke

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Registered: 06-17-2004
Tue, 06-14-2005 - 12:19pm
Personally, I think it would be
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Registered: 12-11-2003
Tue, 06-14-2005 - 12:47pm

Hi Brooke,
This is Stacy I read your post yesterday, and yeah I think it would be alot easier with no contact. It's hard to talk to them knowing it's not going to work out. I bet you can't wait to get back, I would go nuts over there with no friends. What do you do all day?
What state are you moving back to? Besides that I do think it'll be alot easier, and I would tell ol girlfriend to leave me the h*ll alone, I'm sure you don't want to here about him and her escpecially from her.. Hope we helped..

Stac

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Registered: 06-11-2004
Tue, 06-14-2005 - 1:57pm

You have no idea how lucky you are. Ive been driving myself crazy. The contact, no contact. Now im opting for nc also because seeing him is TOOOOO HARD.

With my past relationships, if they cheated I immediately cut them off and got over them way easier. I have a child with him and it's impossible to cut him off completely. Its horrible. Seeing him keeps me hoping wishing and he knows this, so he has to be off limits to me unless related directly about our son. Its the only way. I ve been playing this game for over a year and although Ive grown, I cant really move on b/c I allow him to draw me back in and he cant give me what I want.

Good luck to you, stay strong.