No Contact Rule

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-11-2004
No Contact Rule
13
Sun, 01-08-2006 - 11:25am
I can't seem to follow the no contact rule. I find myself wanting to see my ex, talk to my ex etc. How do you stop loving a man? I don't want to cry anymore. I don't want to hurt anymore. I know everytime I contact him I am just hurting myself. Anyone have any advice on what I need to be doing when the urge hits? I am beginging to drive myself crazier. The suicidal thoughts are very strong some days. Someone help me!
Hugs, Brenda

Hugs, Brenda 

Pages

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-11-2004
In reply to: mebrenda
Sun, 01-08-2006 - 1:53pm
He has all the money and all the power. I am screwed if I go inpatient. He will use his money to take my boys.
Thanks so much. I really needed a shoulder today. Hugs, Brenda

Hugs, Brenda 

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-28-2003
In reply to: mebrenda
Sun, 01-08-2006 - 4:39pm

I didn't read everyone else's responses so forgive me if I repeat anything. I don't know what meds you are on but sometimes some meds, for some people, make anxiety, suicidal thoughts and obsessive thoughts worse. Talk to you doctor about this. Ten years ago I was on Zoloft for a short period and the anxiety got SO much worse that I just had to quit. When everything hit the fan at Christmas, I almost didn't go to the doctor because of my experience with Zoloft. I did though and this time got put on Lexapro. I love it. It is actually the drug of choice for OCD as well so I get help with obsessing over my stbx. I rarely think of him at all. Anyway, talk to your doc because maybe a drug change will do wonders.

Second, talk to a good friend and see if you can call him/her whenever you get the urge to call your ex. Talk to your friend and get past the urge. I did that for my friend back in college when she was having the same trouble with a boyfriend. She would call me and I would remind her of her boyfriend's dark side.

Anyway, good luck. There's no right way to get through this as long as you get through it.

Kimberly

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-11-2004
In reply to: mebrenda
Mon, 01-09-2006 - 7:18pm
Thanks for the advice Kimberly. I wish I had someone to call. I feel like I am intruding on their life. I don't mind calling my sister everyonce in a while so I can do that, but not too often it's too expensive. I am also on Lexapro. As well as Buspar, Trazodone and Xanex. Hugs, Brenda

Hugs, Brenda 

Pages