No contact while still living together?
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| Tue, 06-14-2005 - 12:42pm |
So we are already emotionally divorced and have been for 2 years, my poor kids have had to live through this with me. We live completely seperate lives, sleep in different rooms, don't eat together and rarely speak. Then there are the times when we will walk up and hug me (try) and want to watch a movie with me or help me with a chore that I am doing. Then I get a glimmer (albiet small) of hope that maybe just maybe we could do this. ARGGGG!! I hate feeling like this, I feel like I hate him 99% of the time, then that 1% I start to wonder.
So my question since we already live seperate lives, would it be right for me to tell him to not speak to me, touch me or preferably even look at me? It's not possible for either one of us to move out because we (I) I am trying to adopt my nephew through Children Services and they won't let me have him unless we are either happily married or divorced for a yr.

God Bless You! I couldnt even imagine living in the same house and having nc. My ex said that's the way it should have been with us. We live as "roommates". NO WAY. He would have ended up back in our bed. Bad enough when we broke up it happened a few times but I could handle it anymore and told him it had to stop. It's crazy b/c I have still been pining over at times and I dont even know why b/c he's already cheated on his new gf with me twice and she has no idea. And for that I am truly ashamed of myself. I guess he represented my dreams of husband, wife, kids, house, and the whole happily ever after. I still cant believe sometimes he just so easily threw it all away. Now Im left lonely, trying to start over and he is starting over for the second time in 1 yr and 3 months. Unreal.
I couldnt stay for the sake of our son. Kids are smart and know when things arent right. We had begun arguing in front of my son sometimes and he deserves a better life than that even if it means not growing up with "daddy" in the house. YOU deserve to be happy. YOU have to do what's best for you and with a WHOLE, COMPLETE, HAPPY MOM, your kids will be happy.
I wish you luck in your decision. It took me like a year before I had the courage to kick my ex out. It was the hardest thing in my life I ever had to do, at lease so far. I did the second hardest thing this morning when I told him not to call me unless it pertains directly to our son.
My prayers are with you.