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| Thu, 04-24-2008 - 10:37am |
Hi everyone,
I am pretty new to this particular board. I left my husband in February. We had been together 9 years, married almost 3. It was friendly, but we don't talk much. I am now living alone.
I have no friends or support really. I do see a therapist but that's about it. Some coworkers helped with with moving and stuff, and one of them even let me stay with her for a while when I first left, which was great. But now that I am on my own, I have no one to talk to about any of it. No one calls to ask me if I want to do any thing or if I am ok. I never had any good friends before the separation so this really isn't a surprise to me, but it makes me feel so very sad. I feel so alone. I just want someone to care about me. I want there to be someone who I can call up and just talk to about how I feel, or just vent to, or cry to.
I've always had a hard time making friends and relating to most people. I don't feel comfortable asking people I know to do things with me just because I am separated now. I can't expect them to try to be my friend now when I didn't really make time for them before. Right? I don't really have opportunity to meet people either. I work for a small company and I really don't meet new people ever. I'm really not good at talking and getting to know people anyway.
I do have a mom but she's more interested in her own issues than mine. I so envy people who have a best friend, or any friends, or close family. I hope people know how lucky they are.
Anyway, thanks for letting me get all that out...

Hey.... I hear what you're saying.
Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~
Krglvt,
Karen's suggestion is a good one. Find others who enjoy doing the things you do and you'll find potential friends. Be patient with yourself and be patient with others. It takes time to make friends and develop those relationships.
I also encourage you to find a support group. Many churches offer divorce support groups or ask your therapist for a referral. Support groups are helpful and let you know you're not alone.
I also encourage you to make a list of things you've always wanted to do. Write down everything, no matter how outlandish or silly it seems. Then, pick out three things that are attainable. These will become goals for you and give you something to work toward. They also get you out of four walls and with others.
Good luck and remember, if you want friends, be a friend.
Best wishes,
CL-Wisdomtooth2020
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