No one needs to be undermined.........

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Registered: 12-29-2004
No one needs to be undermined.........
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Thu, 02-24-2005 - 5:45pm

I don't know but I feel that unless you've heard the whole story, then maybe you shouldn't comment!!!! Who ever you are!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Men and women both used and abused and unless you know for a fact that you've been either, than don't judge!!!

We are here to support and advise to our own admission as to our experiences with our "ex", men and women alike!!! No gender undermined!!




Edited 2/24/2005 6:23 pm ET ET by gehring1960
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Registered: 03-15-2004
Sat, 02-26-2005 - 1:52pm
Hmmm, i must have missed all this- i have to say, if it was in response to this one, to me, from Adam http://messageboards.ivillage.com/n/mb/message.asp?webtag=iv-rlsmartdivor&msg=14642.2 I did feel that he didnt know the story, & although yes, he came off a little "biting" at 1st, i was very happy to see he understood what & why, once he knew some history. But obviously this isnt the deleted post, b/c its still there. So ... mayeb it wasnt ... ah! Im confused! lol R~

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Registered: 03-15-2004
Sat, 02-26-2005 - 1:57pm

Yikes. It was me who started it! Sorry!

But i just have to point out ... he didnt leave, i had him taken out. He would never leave. He told me this MANY a time, & if i made him leave (b.c of alcoholism, verbal & emotional & some minor physical abuse & death threats) that "You had better have an army b/c i will kill you 1st" or "If you kick me out, i will burn the house down with you in it".

& do i have rage? Not really. I am furious that he may be trying to get back at me, thru out child - which is hurting her. I have done NOTHING but try to keep him in a positive light in her eyes (even as we ran for safety from our home 5 times over the past 2 years) ... b/c i know he has the capability to be a good father to her. He has shown me that in the past. But with his history of mental illness, alcohol & rage, i have to do what i need to, as the stable parent right now, to protect her. & if that makes me look rageful, well then, so be it. ANYone who hurts my child, WILL deal with my rage.

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Sat, 02-26-2005 - 11:11pm
Well said rlch...very well said indeed!!! I believe that all of us feel the same about our kids!!!
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