no way to contact him while he has kids?
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| Thu, 02-17-2005 - 5:20pm |
My ex husband gets the kids every other weekend. He has, for about a month or so, had his cell phone turned off, this is the only way anyone can get in touch with him if needed.
I have sole custody with reasonable visitation to my ex husband. My daughter is 1 and my son just turned 6. I told him when he picked up the children for the last visit ( 1 week ago ) that he needed to find a way for me to contact him as he has been threatening legal action against me to get custody of the kids....... He was over an hour late bring the kids back last visit and I had no way of contacting him to find out what happened or if they were ok. I called his phone, hoping he had it on.... and he doesn't. He won't answer emails or texts.
Can I legally say to him, unless he gets a way for me to contact him if needed while he has the children then he can't have them? I don't like that his girlfriend is a known psycho ( borederline personality disorder ) she HATES me for some reason and both of them ( even though the courts found it better the children live with me and I have sole custody ) threaten me with custody. I am just afraid that something will happen.
What can I do?
Any suggestions would be great.
Thanks.
Angelena


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I know what you mean. I know it sounds cliche, but Dr Phil has put a lot into perspective for me.......
I think out of all of this I can walk away knowing that I tried. I tried to get him to see them more, um-teen times. Through this whole thing, and I used to believe him, he has always "had to work" ( even when he didn't have a job ) or he was "sick". I guess it was only recently when his girlfriend made plans for them to fly to florida for vacation on "his weekend" that I realized he just doesn't care. Out of sight out of mind kind of thing... but I still try.
My 6 year old is asking questions. I had to keep him home from school one day last week because he finally asked questions about why daddy left and he also told me he missed daddy and he spent the rest of the day drawing pictures of me, him and daddy. He was so upset. My 1 year old doesn't know the difference, but when she cries for me when I hand her over to him it breaks my heart. He should know her. It has only been since August 04 that he had started seeing them every other weekend. Before then we went months without hearing from him. ( he was mad because I filed for divorce so he took it out on them ) Bottom line, he left me, not them. I think of how much I miss my kids when they go with him for the weekend, let alone not seeing them for 2 weeks! He goes weeks... around Xmas he went 6 weeks without seeing them. How can anyone who supposadly "loved his children" and who was so happy when our son was born that he cried and stared at him for hours go from that to not even being there for our daughters birth for more than an hour. It makes no sense.
I think I am just worried that he will take off with the kids. At the very least I can get him for the money thing and maybe spending some time in jail ( he has never been in jail and is SCARED that I will have him put there ) will make him see that he CANT DO THIS..... These kids need him, especially since our son went from seeing him everyday to not at all to a day here and there to every other weekend. He is probably so confused.
Anyway, thanks a lot.
Take care... Hugs and I hope all of us who are dealing with this crap will get our freedom soon from this burden... isn't there a pill we can give the X's to grow a heart?
ugh.
Hugs,
Angelena
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