is this normal or is it too soon?
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is this normal or is it too soon?
| Thu, 11-02-2006 - 8:28pm |
I dont get it. I know hes not what I need and I know he plays mind games. Thats partly why I have convinced myself to file for a divorce in march. But why am I still hoping something will change before then? Is that normal to hope things will change before they are final or am I doing this too soon? I love him so much and I am 99% focused on starting a new life as a single mother of 5. Right now Im more head strong than Ive ever been. Why am I feeling like this?

Its called denial, and everybody goes through it.
You are facing an unknown future, and that may tend to frighten people.
You're normal and its okay to feel this way.
Be strong and stout heart.
Hi Seana,
Yes, it is "normal" to hold out hope that somehow you won't really get divorced. That's because we all hope the other person "gets it" whatever "gets it" means to you. My only question would be this: have you gone to marriage counseling together or separately at any time prior to now? Have you considered going? It may help you sort out your feelings, even solo. If you have tried this route and it didn't seem to work, then I can only say you're a human being and being hopeful is OK.
Take care of yourself and your children. You sound like you've got a good head on your shoulders.
CL-Wisdomtooth2020
Hugs, Brenda