Huggs to all the guys mistreated by their ex's. I struggle to sympathize with men, because I have little experience with good ones. Its horrible for any person to use such personal things against a person just to get what they wanted, and anyone keeping a parent from their child like that is horrible. That being said, my ex gets every other weekend, and overnight when the court decides on his safety. I am not withholding any visits, which I was told I could do until the eval, I simply put in place a system to ensure his visitation on safe grounds. Though, to him, I know he sees it as me using some things about him to deny him what he feels is his right. No one is wrong when acting in the best interest of the child, but too many people see their interests and their child's interests the same, and they are not. Believe me, I have to choke back the pure hatred I have for my ex for what he did, smile to my kids and ship them off EOW for a visit with "daddy"... a courtesy I know he does not share toward me. He interrogates them about life at home, says negative things about me and my family and is hostile toward them when they talk about their Mommy. Ah, we can only do what WE can do, and we cannot change those other people.
Sorry you are in the situation you are in. I have several great guy friends and you are right, not every guy is bad. It is just that you find mostly females who reach out for help. I have to say as hard as it is to be getting divorced after 20 years - my ex is not a bad guy. We just lost our communication skills and money problems just made things worse.
I hate the thought you are sleeping in your car. You do not deserve that. Do you have a YMCA you could stay at? Are you working? If so, you need to take care of yourself first and your kids second. I do not normally say this - however, if they are living with her parents, the kids are sheltered and fed. I am sure they are well tasken care of. It would be best to get yourself situated - and then you could help support your kids.
As I had told my ex, you have to find yourself before you can be there for others.
I don't think any reasonable women would bash you unless you started being rude somewhere. I still have alot of respect and love for my ex, I always will, he is a good person who made a bad choice, but I tried all
I agree.
I understand.
Huggs to all the guys mistreated by their ex's.
I struggle to sympathize with men, because I have little experience with good ones.
Its horrible for any person to use such personal things against a person just to get what they wanted, and anyone keeping a parent from their child like that is horrible.
That being said, my ex gets every other weekend, and overnight when the court decides on his safety. I am not withholding any visits, which I was told I could do until the eval, I simply put in place a system to ensure his visitation on safe grounds. Though, to him, I know he sees it as me using some things about him to deny him what he feels is his right.
No one is wrong when acting in the best interest of the child, but too many people see their interests and their child's interests the same, and they are not.
Believe me, I have to choke back the pure hatred I have for my ex for what he did, smile to my kids and ship them off EOW for a visit with "daddy"... a courtesy I know he does not share toward me. He interrogates them about life at home, says negative things about me and my family and is hostile toward them when they talk about their Mommy.
Ah, we can only do what WE can do, and we cannot change those other people.
Liz
Bill.... we HOPE THEY AREN'T :-)
Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~
Hi Bill,
I think you are right that men are not always the ones at fault.
Sorry you are in the situation you are in. I have several great guy friends and you are right, not every guy is bad. It is just that you find mostly females who reach out for help. I have to say as hard as it is to be getting divorced after 20 years - my ex is not a bad guy. We just lost our communication skills and money problems just made things worse.
I hate the thought you are sleeping in your car. You do not deserve that. Do you have a YMCA you could stay at? Are you working? If so, you need to take care of yourself first and your kids second. I do not normally say this - however, if they are living with her parents, the kids are sheltered and fed. I am sure they are well tasken care of. It would be best to get yourself situated - and then you could help support your kids.
As I had told my ex, you have to find yourself before you can be there for others.
I don't think any reasonable women would bash you unless you started being rude somewhere. I still have alot of respect and love for my ex, I always will, he is a good person who made a bad choice, but I tried all