Not coming to see the kids?

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Registered: 11-05-2004
Not coming to see the kids?
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Sun, 10-01-2006 - 9:24am
Well, my soon to be ex was pretty good about coming to see the kids. He left us and moved into an apartment one day. Anyway, just recently, he has been hours late, he says he will be here at noon and shows up at 3 and doesn't answer his cell phone. Well, finally I just started leaving with the kids, so when he is late we aren't here. This makes me really mad because my children are very young (4 yera old and a 10 month old)and I stay at home with them, so I need a break. We haven't had our court date yet, but is there anyway I can use this against him? He wants this 50/50 custody thing,but I dont think thats what he wants. I need some ammunition why he shouldnt have the kids 50% of the time.
He goes out every weekend night, he is never with the kids on those days. PLus he left us for another woman.


Edited 10/1/2006 9:27 am ET by kate923

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Registered: 07-21-2004
Sun, 10-01-2006 - 3:16pm

You need to keep a log documenting his contact with the kids, especially the missed visits. Also, collect evidence of who was the primary care giver. Long periods of time between visits with very young children is not good. Make sure you have the best attorney you can afford if you want to fight the 50-50 custody. Have alternate arrangements to offer instead. Hopefully your stbx will get a good attorney who will explain to him that 50-50 does not necessarily mean he will not have to pay child support, if you don't think he really wants 50-50 this may be enough to stop him from pursuing it. I think if it is important to show that the children are doing well primarily living with you, if that is how you want to keep it. Judges often don't like to change things that are working.

Good Luck

Tina

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Registered: 03-19-2003
Mon, 10-02-2006 - 11:20am

Hi Kate... I agree, you need to be keeping up with every visit that he has now.... write it down.


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