Not sure what to think........
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| Fri, 04-29-2005 - 10:58pm |
Ever since ex's girlfriend moved in he's been different. Mostly in a good way,but I'm afraid to let my gaurd down. We have been able to talk on the phone without yelling for the most part.
I'm not sure if he is just behaving because I'm doing better than him financially right now. He still owes me 168 dollars for girl scout cookies because he couldn't cover the amount he ordered. I just found out from him that his gas service was shut off April 12th. This means that the past couple weeks that the temps have dipped down ,he hasn't had heat when the girls are there.
He said he owes 1500 to gas and 200 to elec. I asked him if GF was pitching in with expenses now that she lives there and he told me she is "going"to.She is an RN full time. She is not divorced yet and has a house in another state to deal with.
I know I've taken advantage of him because he is willing to talk about GF with me and his problems. She hates if he talks about her or her animals to me. She actually got jealous because he talked to me about her cats. I told him that her pets and her as well are now a part of our childrens lives and if she or they come up in conversation then she will just have to get over it. It doesn't matter if it's good conversation she gets jealous.
I told him I would personally tell her he is all hers. But he didn't want me to do that. I think he likes to see what he can do behind her back,it just gives me more info to go on that he doesn't realize.
I'm just not sure if he is trying to manipulate me somehow as well. I love being able to get along for the sake of the kids. That is all I've wanted all along. I'm just always looking over my shoulder to see whats next.
Am I being paranoid? Or just cautious?I never know how long these "nice times" will last.
Thanks
K :)

I agree with Rose. Don't let your guard down. I have had A LOT of good conversations with X only to have them turn into anger yelling matches the next time we talk. It's a roller coaster and probably what tires me out the most in this whole thing. Keep your guard up.
About OW, well, she will always want to hide things from you, especially if they are in financial distress. OW in my situation brags about buying 4wheelers, going out to eat, buying houses, buying cars, buying brand name handbags ( fake although she says she spent 400.00 on it ) things like that, only to have X tell me his Electricity is about to be shut off and they have no money for food to have the kids over. It's silly, but let what she says slide right off your shoulders.... who cares if she doesnt want you to hear about her cats, he will tell you what he wants to. sheesh!
Hugs,
Angelena
Getting along for the kids.... even at a cost to you... it always a good idea, in my opinion.
If HE talks to YOU.... you are NOT taking advantage of him.
Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~