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| Thu, 12-28-2006 - 4:36pm |
My h had/is having an affair..he moved out 3 weeks ago. He wants to be separated. I had to go find a job(sahm) I called a friend(guy) who I've known for many yrs. We chatted. The next day he offered me a job as his nanny/housekeeper/assistant(he's divorced). He's so very nice..Treats me with respect,talks to me, likes that I LOVE kids and education, he listens very well to me and asks me what I think...he always has. Trust me when I say I have had no feelings for him (or anyone) before. I don't even know what I am feeling other than I like how I feel when we are hanging out. I have never been w/ anyone except my stbx. Last week in a moment of great conversation me and my boss started kissing. We ended up making love. I was shocked as was he. I certainly didn't expect anything like this. We're cool with it happening and are still on GREAT terms(no more sex)
This brings me to my dilema.... Yesterday happened........ Question.....Is it ever ok to sleep with your stbx? It's been about 2 months since we stopped. Yesterday we(my s & I)went and spent the day with him....my d didn't want to go...my H and I watched our s play a game on the computer then s wanted to watch a movie.....we(H & I) went in the room talked and had sex. My boss called to talk while H was asleep. He wanted me to come by to help him do some work, but I was feeling wierd......H informed me he "may" dump his OW GF....it doesn't change anything really except I really miss my ex and after 23 yrs it is hard to let go.
I went to work this morning and fell asleep on my bosses couch. He got up and came and layed on the couch w/me. He was on the other end and under a different blanket. We talked for about an hr then I went to the bedroom and got his son out of bed. I made breakfast, did some laundry and other miscellaneous stuff. My boss went to the office. I brought his son to my house to play w/my son as they get along great. I feel guilty. I am trying to live single(should I even be?) and so is my boss and my H. Everyone has a "date" tomorrow night...except me..I'll be with the kids....I just want feel appreciated and thought of. When does that happen??? Not sure maybe I just need to NOT date, have sex w/anyone(my H was my 1st and only til the thing with my boss) Does it get easier????? I am confused about the whole darn thing!!!! HELP PLEASE!!!!!!!!

I wouldnt feel guilty. not at all. yes it would have been nice to wait till youa re divorced but did your husband? NO
shake the dust off and climb on up above this ........dont run yourself down. your stbx started all this. I would be very careful about staying with him. perhaps this is not the first affair he had. When you catch your spouse with another person you immediately feel spiteful and rejected. put the blame where it belongs....on your stbx IMO
Yep...thats how I feel...sorta...sigh..I did spend from 3 am til 8 am w/my h....He's let me know his OW/GF is starting to get clingy....we were intimate AGAIN!!! That was NEVER our problem..that's how we solved everything..with sex.....ran outa bandaids!
Ughhh.....I asked if GF knew we were sleeping together this morning...his reply..sh'd be po'd...AND maybe this is his way out......Hmmmm......the not so nice girl wants to make that call/hint/whatever...but it'd serve no purpose....
My boss and I are cooling it completely...no anything..although I did have to see him in underwear b/c I had to measure him for a costume. :blush: Just not wanting to rock either boat..I want be and feel like awoman...KWIM????? UGH!!!!!!!
~Karen˙·٠•●♥Ƹ̵̡Ӝ