I'm not going to smack you buckeye. It's a real feeling and you need to feel it. Some day we will be loved, the way we deserve to, and want to, be loved. But in the meantime, grieve, cry, get mad and then lean on us. Big hugs! I feel for you because I know it's my reality too.
I know how you feel, I felt the same way when my husband drop off my kids after visitation and they told me all the "fun" stuff they did. It was painful, all I can think was "he just wanted to get rid of me" and I cried.
Later on I talked to my counselor and she said it is not about me, it is about him wanting to do only the EASY and FUN stuff as a parent, without taking responsibility as a husband and as a parent. That is what your husband is doing, because it is very easy to do the "fun birthday party", you are doing the hard part, being responsible and giving your children and yourself a secure and stable home.
Hang in there, you are a great mom and you are doing the right thing.
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I'm not going to smack you buckeye. It's a real feeling and you need to feel it. Some day we will be loved, the way we deserve to, and want to, be loved. But in the meantime, grieve, cry, get mad and then lean on us. Big hugs! I feel for you because I know it's my reality too.
Hang in there!
I do think holidays are the worst time, esp. Christmas, which is my favorite holiday.
Oh, you don't need to be smacked :-)
Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~
Believe me, this is definitely the worst time and it WILL get better.
I know how you feel, I felt the same way when my husband drop off my kids after visitation and they told me all the "fun" stuff they did. It was painful, all I can think was "he just wanted to get rid of me" and I cried.
Later on I talked to my counselor and she said it is not about me, it is about him wanting to do only the EASY and FUN stuff as a parent, without taking responsibility as a husband and as a parent. That is what your husband is doing, because it is very easy to do the "fun birthday party", you are doing the hard part, being responsible and giving your children and yourself a secure and stable home.
Hang in there, you are a great mom and you are doing the right thing.
PrayingForWisdom
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