Now for the sad stuff

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-19-2001
Now for the sad stuff
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Wed, 04-30-2008 - 6:48pm

I know in my mind that my marriage is over.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 03-30-2008
Wed, 04-30-2008 - 8:10pm

I'm not going to smack you buckeye. It's a real feeling and you need to feel it. Some day we will be loved, the way we deserve to, and want to, be loved. But in the meantime, grieve, cry, get mad and then lean on us. Big hugs! I feel for you because I know it's my reality too.

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Registered: 04-27-2008
Thu, 05-01-2008 - 9:31am

Hang in there!

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-28-1999
Thu, 05-01-2008 - 10:46am

I do think holidays are the worst time, esp. Christmas, which is my favorite holiday.

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-01-2008
Thu, 05-01-2008 - 11:04am
i know how you feel. my husband of 13 years and 2 days just left me too.
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-19-2003
Thu, 05-01-2008 - 12:16pm

Oh, you don't need to be smacked :-)


Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Thu, 05-01-2008 - 2:28pm
You will have family trips & celebrations, it will just be a family minus one (your ex).
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Registered: 05-01-2008
Thu, 05-01-2008 - 4:17pm
i pray you are right.
iVillage Member
Registered: 11-28-1999
Thu, 05-01-2008 - 4:39pm

Believe me, this is definitely the worst time and it WILL get better.

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-01-2008
Thu, 05-01-2008 - 11:34pm

I know how you feel, I felt the same way when my husband drop off my kids after visitation and they told me all the "fun" stuff they did. It was painful, all I can think was "he just wanted to get rid of me" and I cried.


Later on I talked to my counselor and she said it is not about me, it is about him wanting to do only the EASY and FUN stuff as a parent, without taking responsibility as a husband and as a parent. That is what your husband is doing, because it is very easy to do the "fun birthday party", you are doing the hard part, being responsible and giving your children and yourself a secure and stable home.


Hang in there, you are a great mom and you are doing the right thing.


PrayingForWisdom


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Registered: 05-01-2008
Fri, 05-02-2008 - 9:35am
thanks for the advice.

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