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| Sat, 07-02-2005 - 12:52pm |
I am venting again today and quite frankly this is the last straw. My son came home last week from his visit with his father and told me the his dad's GF had on underwear with no backs. I was furious that she was walking around in her underwear (thongs). When I called the STBX he just blew it off and hung up on me. So yesterday we are at the Softball family outing for my daughter (the STBX couldn't be there... the GF was having a b-day party for him)and my 6 year old is talking to another little boy. He says my dad and his GF were in the pool yesterday and I saw my dad take her bathing suit top of and he was rubbing her boobs......... I was furious... Of course I marched right to the car and I called him. He had the nerve to say that I was only mad because I am jealous because I am not getting any sex. He refused to talk about the issue like adults. This is only the half of it. The daycare center called me at work and my Admin in interrupted me in the middle of an important meeting, because the daycare said it was urgent. Well my son was telling kids at the daycare that a girl and a boy can have sex if they both get naked and get under the covers. When I talked to my son about this he said he saw it on a video his dad was watching. I am thinking about placing my son in counseling. He is subjected to a lot of adult things. I don't know what to do... Does anyone have any advice.

Princess, you really need some help, and I don't know what to tell you. It looks like people are not here due to the holiday weekend. In the meantime, read the discussion called "picture posted on the internet" started by cl-butterfly. You might find some advice in the help that people were giving her, as to the appropriate people/agencies to contact.
This situation is NOT RIGHT and you may need to get legal help. Your son's father should not be exposing him to those things!
I agree, I think you should seek legal council IMMEDIATELY. That is NOT right.
I would be ( and have been ) furious as well. NO WAY would I let that go.
Choose to use these incidents as a way to teach morality to your son.... by example. When son relays the info to you, don't react with anger, alarm or backlash. React by pointing out that gf must be very insecure to have to feel the need to show all in order to get attention. Point out that what gf shows is no different than what all women have, there is nothing special about her body. Point out that daddy has a problem... it's called exhibitionism... a big word that son can practice on and share with daddy next time.
Your first action has been to get on the phone and reem ex a new one... and it's almost like he's waiting for your call! Your falling right into his trap hon! He sets the bait and you're going for it every time. Beat him at his own game. Say NOTHING to him about these acts (and they are carefully staged for your benefit)... deal instead with educating your son in how he should be interpreting what he sees. Think of it in a diff way... your son will see and hear all kinds of inappropriate things in his lifetime... equip him with wisdom, self control, maturity and a moral compass that will steer him out of trouble.
As he grows and gets to know his father, he will also see him for his true character.