OK how is this my fault?

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Registered: 10-30-2004
OK how is this my fault?
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Mon, 12-12-2005 - 10:03pm

I was at work today and checked my voicemail because the kids sometimes leave me messages. Anywhoo, I got a message from my 13-year-old daughter that her and a friend were going to the mall with someone. I couldn't make out who she said she was going with so I called her at the house. No answer. So I called her friend's mother and she had thought they were going with me. So neither one of us had a clue who these kids were going with. I called the ex and he said he would try her on her cell phone.

I found out that they were going with another friend and the grandmother was driving. Then they left a message taht I had to pick them up at the kid's house which was waaaaay out of my way. I told them I'd get them at the mall since it was on my way home.

Well my ex gave me $hit about it because I should have said no. I would have had I not found out last minute after they were already in the car on the way to the mall. He said that waiting for me to pick her up and then come get the other kids at his place was more of an inconvience to HIM> I swear I could choke that man.

DD should have been at his house and he should have known where she was, I was working and only knew what was going on because I checked my messages. Once again it's MY fault.

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Registered: 03-19-2003
Fri, 12-16-2005 - 10:33pm
Don't let him make you feel like you own that... you don't!.... And who cares what he thinks or says.... it's not all your fault.

Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~

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Registered: 10-30-2004
Fri, 12-16-2005 - 10:42pm

Well we ended up having a civilized conversation regarding our daughter the next day. I basically told him that she manipulated the situation and played us both. He finally admitted that he hadn't told her no and that it was ok with him if I wanted to pick her up.

We came to the agreement that this wasn't going to happen again on a school night and that leaving voicemails on my cell phone while I'm at work is NOT ok and in no way gives her a green light to do as she pleases just because she leaves a message. PHEW!

I'm a nurse in the operating room and it really stresses me out when I'm trying to focus on my work and have to worry and wonder about my kids because the ex doesn't supervise them. He has this resentment about having them on my worknights so he lets them do whatever they want and it's so wrong.