Ok, Im back, & NOT in jail! Phew! lol

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Ok, Im back, & NOT in jail! Phew! lol
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Mon, 02-25-2008 - 1:13pm

Thank you guys for all your thoughts.


Ok - so i TOLD my atty last week ... "dont you think we either need the doc there (who said he would come) or at least something in writing to say that he DID tell me to continue to hold visitation?" & my atty said "Not unless we have a hearing, we have to see what happens on Monday". WELL - sure enough, X & X's atty "had
discrepancies" in what apparently THEY heard from the doc, as opposed to what *I* heard (which was

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Registered: 06-06-2004
Wed, 02-27-2008 - 8:18am
And I would not end with the part about how he didn't buy her a B-day present until 2 days after her B-day.
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Wed, 02-27-2008 - 8:20am

Good point. The only reason i did that was so that the actual worst facts were more easily picked out quickly, upon glancing at it. Like when my atty had it in hand to speak with teh judge, he cant read thru pragaraphs or long sentences, does that make sense?

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Wed, 02-27-2008 - 8:21am

I am glad your are organized.

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Wed, 02-27-2008 - 8:36am
I did hesitate to leave that out. The only reason i included it was that the psyc felt it was very important (or loooked good on my part) that after all that, I went out of my way to meet him to sort of cajole him into buying her a gift. But i DO want it as concise as possible, & thats not such a big issue, so i will take that part out.

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Wed, 02-27-2008 - 8:37am

Didnt take it that way at all. Promise!


& i am SO sorry about the false accusations on you.

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Wed, 02-27-2008 - 8:40am
Thanks! And the psyc letter is ready for me to pick up on Thurs b4 court, but it basically (he read it to me) covers that he wasnt & still ISNT stable enough to have visitation, & that he was agreeing to continue the plan of his 2st couple visits w/ dd

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Registered: 06-06-2004
Wed, 02-27-2008 - 1:29pm

You're welcome! I really hope you win; he sounds horrid to her and to you. No one deserves that; it's inexcusable.

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Registered: 07-08-2004
Wed, 02-27-2008 - 7:42pm

If you had actually spent one second in jail over this, I would stand on the mountain top and scream, "THERE IS NO JUSTICE IN THIS WORLD!!!" LOL! I had a feeling the contempt charges would be thrown out.


And you are BRILLIANT for keeping such detailed records of the interactions and problems. I have to tell you, what he has done is so shocking, it's unbelievable.


In the end, I know you'd love it if Avery's dad could just get well, but until (and if) he does, you'll have to continue to make hard choices to keep her safe.


PS - What does your ex do that he can never afford food and has no money? You two have been divorced for q while now. When is he actually going to get back on his feet!!?!?

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Registered: 03-15-2004
Wed, 02-27-2008 - 10:06pm

Thanks.


ACTUALLY, my X never graduated, but has a GED. He's basically a laborer. We DO live on an island where it IS hard ot get that kind of work in the winter ... BUT, for over TWO YEARS now, he has worked full time boat building, all year round, AND he freaking makes $21/hr! His car payment is $200 & his rent is $650, including all. He puts no $ in retirement, insurance, etc. The only other bill he has is CS of $70/week, which he hasnt paid in 42 weeks.


SO ... where does all his money go? BOOZE. Nice restaratunts? He is ALWAYS out on the weekends, taking women on dates to restaraunts i KNOW the bill is at LEAST $100.

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