OK, this is pretty uncool...

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OK, this is pretty uncool...
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Mon, 10-02-2006 - 9:05pm

I don't think it's any secret that my ex and I don't have the best relationship! I've asked him repeatedly if we could put our differences aside so we can co-parent our son effectively, and he has said no. He says he doesn't care. I asked him if it was more important for him to exact revenge on me than to raise our son, and he just shrugs his shoulders.


On to today's saga! My ex has our son on Mondays. Today is Yom Kippur, so school was not in session and my ex (who is Jewish) went to work today. So of course I am going to spend the day with our son. Last week, I had called him to make the arrangements for the pick up today. I told him I would pick up DS from his house, and asked him what time would be convenient.

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Registered: 03-19-2003
Mon, 10-02-2006 - 10:40pm

Good grief!... I would've been shaking mad (and scared!)


I'm glad that you filed a report.... what a jerk!

Karen ~ wildlucky4me

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Registered: 09-21-2006
Tue, 10-03-2006 - 12:43am
OK, I thought my x was a total psycho, yours is really dangerous. I hope you didn't hold back any details w/ cops. How can this man have custody? Will there be some kind of charges brought against him? God, I hope so. Be safe, be very careful. He is clearly off his rocker.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 10-03-2006 - 4:02am
I'm glad that you didn't get hurt. I'm also very glad that you filed a report. I guess his auto insurance isn't going to like *that* claim coming through!





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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 10-03-2006 - 7:20pm

OMG Christine, that is way more than uncool. Be safe girl. (((((((Christine))))))))

Melanie

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Registered: 11-25-2003
Wed, 10-04-2006 - 12:22pm

I have a few suggestions for you.

First, pick a time for the exchange, not a range of times. And make them a lot earlier if possible. 8PM is the start of your son's "down" time on his way to a restful night of sleep. Your son is a child and probably cannt turn himsefl off the way an adult can.

Second, stop calling over to the ex's house. According to your profile, your son is 11yo. He's old enough to be responsible for his stuff, and if he forgets his stuff, your son needs to face the consequences. So let your son face the consequences -- it will only need to happne one or two times. You are not helping him with reminders and such.

Third, have the exchange at a neutral location, if that is feasible. An ex on the other's private property is a like a gasoline spill under a bunch of chain smokers: its an explosion waiting to happen.

All-in-all, I'd try to avoid as much incidental contact with your ex as can be possibly eliminated.

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Wed, 10-04-2006 - 2:34pm

Melanie...


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Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~

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Registered: 09-13-2006
Wed, 10-04-2006 - 4:29pm

That is horrible. I am glad that both you and your son are alright. It is such a dangerous world...for that to come from your ex is a breach to the welfare of your son. I hope the cops are able to help and intervene in this matter.

Rachel

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 10-04-2006 - 7:16pm

done :)

Mel

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Wed, 10-04-2006 - 9:04pm

OMGosh... I don't know what to say after reading that... that's horrible... beyond it actually... I just don't understand how grown people can be so freaking immature!

*hugs*

Julie

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Registered: 11-18-2003
Fri, 10-06-2006 - 12:09am
((((hugs)))) & stay safe!!

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Lexi


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