Okay Ladies, you're on deck.....

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Registered: 08-17-2001
Okay Ladies, you're on deck.....
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Fri, 04-18-2008 - 9:35am

I need some input here! My XH has been legally divorced from NW#2 for less than SIX months, but dating NW#3 for 8 months. FYI, he married NW#2 11 months after the first date and 7 months after our divorce was final. I got THIS email from him.....

Calla,

Just wanted to let you know that NW#3 and I are planning on getting
married this summer sometime. I told the girls yesterday and they seem
very happy with this.

XH

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Any suggestion on how to respond to this lunacy?

"I figured"?

"What took you so long"?

"Of course you are"?

"Does she know that you've only been legally divorced for 4 months from your SECOND wife?"

"Thank you for telling me"??

What do y'all think?????

~calla~

~calla~  mom to rosie and gracie

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Registered: 08-17-2001
Sun, 04-20-2008 - 8:38am

OMG OMG OMG! At least mine was neutered when we were still married!!! (But I wouldn't hold it past him to get a reversal this time around)

NW#2 was 9 years older, but this one is apparently the same age (45), but she has DD8 and DD6. Imagine doing that to your children....

FIVE kids????? I can't stop thinking about that. Any with NW#2?

Frankly, I feel sorry for the new one...... I don't think she even KNOWS about the second wife since she started dating him the week he came back from a family vacation with her!

~calla~

~calla~  mom to rosie and gracie

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Registered: 11-22-2001
Sun, 04-20-2008 - 11:25am

I'm wife (ex wife)#2.


When he was 20, he had a relationship with a 16/17 yr old that created DD #1-she's 21 now and still in his life.


Also when he was 20, he had a relationship (at the same time as above-so affair) with another 16/17 yr old that created his other DD#2. She's 21 now and not in his life and has never been.


When he was about 23, he married some girl. They were divorced within 2 yrs and no children.--this is marriage #1.


When he was 26/27, we married....I'm wife #2.


I have kids #3 and 4.


He's been with this 25 yr old for 5 or 6 years (he was 35/36 and she was like 19/20. THey were married 1 1/2 yrs ago-1 week after he got out of jail for non payment of CS, and she has kid #5. He'll be 1 yr old at the end of April.


Yea, after typing this out, I realize I should NEVER have married the guy! LMAO. What in the world was I thinking?????? I did not know about his other DD until after we were married for 3 yrs.......

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Registered: 08-17-2001
Mon, 04-21-2008 - 8:43am

Ah well, you can't blame yourself if you didn't know, especially if it seemed he was being up front since you knew about one!!

But heck, when a guy has been divorced TWICE, you should proceed with extreme caution.... especially if you have children.

I still want the T-shirt that says, "My XH is getting married for the third time. Anyone else want to know why I'm divorced?"

~calla~

~calla~  mom to rosie and gracie

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Registered: 03-19-2003
Wed, 04-23-2008 - 9:15am

LOL *love* the t-shirt idea...


Any response back from him from your reply?


Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~

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Registered: 08-17-2001
Wed, 04-23-2008 - 9:27am

Nope. Zip. Zilch. Zero.

I cannot believe that I chose so poorly! I think it's partially that I chose poorly and partially that he was very good at hiding his clinical depression. I really never knew him until the end!

~calla~

~calla~  mom to rosie and gracie

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Registered: 03-19-2003
Wed, 04-23-2008 - 9:34am
I think we can all say that :-)

Karen ~ wildlucky4me

Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~

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