OMG he left!
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| Sat, 03-26-2005 - 6:54pm |
After his attitude about the printer and then his abrupt departure he came back and started arguing with me again. I was sick of it and told him that he's an ingrate. He asked me why it's taken me so long to realize that! I said I guess I've had a hard time grasping that I'd be in a 17 year relationship with someone who is like that. He was about to play with DS, but instead he told DS that Mommy upset him, so he has to go. He went for a brief walk and came back wanting a "truce". I told him that I don't feel I did anything wrong and I won't apologize. He again asked if I wanted a truce and I just looked at him. He started to pack a bag and take his things with him. I asked him several times if he was leaving and he ignored me. He went to the kids and told them he didn't know when or if he'd see them again and he left. I started to call around to see who could help me change the lock on my door and he showed back up asking for a second chance, he's sorry for his attitude, he's sorry he left etc. I told him no, he left and that he is now out of the house. He begged because he says he has nowhere to go and I suggested he start driving to visit his parents. He told me he has no $ and I suggested he call them to see if they could wire him some cash for gas in his car. I also told him that it's his choices that have put him in this position. He tried everything to get in, from asking to use the phone, to trying to make me feel badly that he won't see the kids for a while. The truth is HE chose to leave them (again) and he did it in a crappy way (again). Then he tried to pull that technically the house is still part his, but he agreed from the beginning that he didn't want the house or any part of it. He knows that had I not sprung into action when he lost his job that we'd have lost our house too. This house is MINE. He sat on the doorstep for a while and then in his car making calls - hopefully to his ps and I'm hoping that he's on his way there right now. If so, he'll be there in time for Easter breakfast.
Melanie

Wow! I know you feel a relief. Even if he didn't leave like he should have (for everyone's sake), at least he's gone! Now you can have your couch and downstairs back! I find that it's easier here if we're in different rooms. I've spent the morning downstairs while he's been upstairs. We're getting along fine (always have) and yesterday even spent most of the day together - lunch, errands, even at home - but his moods are still so erratic and I guess there's no reason for me to put up with them anymore, it just gets uncomfortable.
I'm glad you got a working printer! And free too! I'm kind of worried about my computer situation after he leaves. He always takes care of them and I've never paid attention! Reminds me of something my niece said when she was about 4 -- I told her I always got Kevin to take install the programs if I had trouble. She said "Aunt Ruth, don't do that! Make Kevin *show* you! Then you can do it too!" This from a then 4 year old!? She's a smarty.
And now, I've gone off on my tangent! :-o I hope you and the kids have a good time reclaiming your house!
Ruth
Edited 3/27/2005 2:47 pm ET ET by rudith2005
YEY MEL! I am so PROUD of you for standing up to him. Doesnt it PYO when they involve the kids liek that! How rotten & mean! You did what you must for your kids. I think its hard for kids to see parents break up, but its devestating to see them get back to gether, only to break up again! Thats one of the things i said from the beginning -whne i do it, its DONE. I could NEVER put dd thru that again.
PLEASE keep us up to date. & how are the kids???
R~
I'm so glad that you stood your ground.... if anyone left my kids by saying that, they'd have heck to pay before I'd let them slink back in, too.... mess with me, but DON'T mess with my kids... end of story... that's where I get totally vile.
Have you heard from him?????
Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~
Thanks for all the support and kind words. I am happy more than anything, but there is sadness for the kids. To update you guys, he called on Sunday morning to tell me that his parents wired him some $ and he stayed at a hotel nearby last night. Honestly I got a pit in my stomache when I heard that. In my mind he was almost to Connecticut. He then told me that he was getting ready to hit the road and start the drive to his parents. I asked if there was anything in the house that he needed and he said if there was that it was light enough for me to ship to him and not to worry about it now. When he said that I asked when he'd be back and he said he didn't know when or if he was coming back. He then spoke to the kids, wished them a happy Easter and told them he misses them. I talked to him one last time and he told me he was going to call when he arrived at his p's, but I still haven't heard from him or them at all. It takes about 16 hours to get there, so he should have gotten there last night. At work my supervisor was making me nervous telling me he could just say he was leaving town, but be hanging around here the whole time. I'm not even going to go there. As for the kids, DS is doing great but DD is a basket case. She has hardly been able to eat and has felt sick to her stomache since this all happened. She was so upset that I was afraid to bring her with me to work (a long story...) and I had to search to find someone who could watch her. I'm actually on my way to go get her right now, she just called and said she's ready. She got to go to an indoor amusement park that her friend's mom runs, but her friend's mom called me in the afternoon to say DD was miserable :^(. I would have gone to get her right away, but it's very far (an hour with no traffic) and she said they were heading back here soon anyway. I worry about that little girl... When STBX left, one of the first things she said to me was that she wanted to talk to the social worker from school. Of course the only number I have for her is the school :^(. I'll keep you all updated.
Melanie
Well... I think that you... and DD are very lucky that she has the connection with the social worker at school.... and thought enough to ask to see her (???? or him).
Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~