OMG, how much more can I handle?

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Registered: 05-02-2007
OMG, how much more can I handle?
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Mon, 06-04-2007 - 9:50am

Well, just when you think things can't get any worse, STBX came to the house last night and told me and the kids the OW is moving home from Vegas to move in with him.

Choke...I knew this was coming but wow, what a blow!

He had the nerve to tell me that she is a good person and what are the chances of him meeting another good person? He also said that he was going to get "fixed" so they won't have any children! Are you kidding me? How could someone be so heartless and sit there like nothing and tell me this!

I knew it was coming, I knew. But really, he's been out of the house 1 week, was only home for 5 months for our "second chance" and he wonders why I told him the whole line he gave me to come back was b.s.? Obviously, they've been planning this for some time.

I don't know how much more hurt I can take. How am I ever going to deal with seeing them together? I mean the pictures and videos I have of them are bad enough?

The kids weren't too responsive either, I don't know what he expected them to do. They were both pretty upset because of our past history with her. She was a very good family friend and my children loved her. I mean really, what are the kids supposed to do? Cartwheels after he gave them the news?

I am sick, I can't eat, I can't sleep. OMG. How am I ever gonna survive this blow.

Hugs,
Jennifer

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Registered: 11-09-2004
Mon, 06-04-2007 - 10:39am
Hey. I am new here - just logged on for the first time in months (since my life changed when my husband left, six and a half weeks ago) and your entry was the first that I read. I want to say that I do not know what you are going through... but the truth is that I can relate, a bit. There is not much that I can say that will ease your pain, right now; but what struck me about your entry is the strength that shines right through. The fact that you were able to sit there and listen to his news - but then (I am assuming) let him get up and leave without your begging and pleading him to stay, etc. - shows that you are on the right path. I cannot imagine the pain that you are feeling... but I can feel your strength and I know that you will survive. Hugs to you and your kids... Suzanne ps - Just the fact that you are reaching out to others (on this board) shows that you are on the right path, too. One foot in front of the other and you will get there...
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Registered: 08-17-2001
Mon, 06-04-2007 - 12:57pm

You're going to survive it because you have to.

You're going to survive it because you can.

You're going to survive it because you have children who need you and are depending on you to be their rock.

You're going to survive it because you don't need (or want) anyone who doesn't want to be with you.

You're going to survive this and when you look back on it, you'll wonder why you ever thought that you couldn't bear it!

Life is good when you move forward!

~calla~  mom to rosie and gracie

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Registered: 11-06-2006
Mon, 06-04-2007 - 2:17pm

God-How you managed not to kick him where he is going to get "Fixed" is beyond my comprehension!

Some of these guys have no respect.

You will survive because you are the better person!

Brenda