OMG!! I am venting!!!!!!!!!!!!
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| Mon, 04-30-2007 - 4:44pm |
Well,
another weekend from h*ll. stbx is nuts, seriously, off the freaking deep end. stbx moved 50 miles away on april 19th. i stupidly thought, GREAT!!
apparently, he is unable to get his phone calls to connect from his cell to mine and my kids. he is under the belief that i contacted the cell provider and told them to block his number. not only did i not do this, it is technolgically impossible to block a cell call. so then the barage begins:: HE SENT ME 87 TEXT MESSAGES friday night. he called me a wh*re, a slut, a drunken wh*re, then he asked me if i would ever make love to him again, etc.... he threatened to take the kids, AGAIN. then, he started sending my xap's wife emails, then he began calling my Xap. then, he went onto our community website and posted personal information about me and xap. i had to unplug the house phone because he kept calling.
needless to say, i turned my phone off and went to bed. by 9:30 the next morning, the texts started again. i called him and told him that i did not block his calls. he called me a liar and said he called the cell phone company and they told him that i blocked his number. SO, i called the cell company, we still use the same company, we conferenced him in, and the cell phone rep told him that it was technologically impossible to block a phone number on a cell phone. he got angry and hung up. i found out that i could block him from texts, so i did. then i went back to bed, and stayed there until 5 pm. my saturday, ruined, because my stbx is a f'n @$$hole.
the good new is this: my divorce order says he is not to harassas or intimidate me by way of email, text, phone calls or vms. my attorney is filing an order wtih the court to hold him in contempt.
now the rest of the story......
last night at 11 pm, stbx sent ds (15) a text message that said, please tell your mom that i still love her and i am looking forward to talking to her soon. 11:15 pm, my dog starts going crazy. she is deaf, so obviously she didn't hear anything. however, what she doesn't have in hearing she makes up for in other senses. she is very observant and will bark only if something catches her eye. so she is freaking out, barking at the door.
i turned on the outside light, looked around, didn't see anything unusual. when i went out to my car this morning, there was a flower tucked under the windshield wiper. i honestly believe stbx drove 50 miles, was walking around the house looking in windows freaking out the dog.
will it ever stop.
what

Oh geesh! I am so sorry you have to deal with this. So, he moved out of the house, at last? You are no longer having to pay for his utilities, etc?
Honey, get that contempt order and maybe you need to have him prosecuted for stalking! Seriously.
I once was stalked by someone. Even once charged with phone harrasment it escalated to stalking until the day before court. We got a conviction!
I won't go into the details, but my point is -- do everything to protect yourself!
I will be praying!
M
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you know, its funny that people tend to play this stuff off. i went to court a month ago looking for a restraining order and the judge said "he has to physically harm you or threaten physical harm, blah, blah blah". tell that to some kid whose mom end up dead because dad runs her over, or throw gas on her and catches her on fire.
he's a loose cannon. he cannot believe that i would ever cheat on him, GOD ALMIGHTY, he doesn't believe he has a drinking problem, and he blames me for everything. i cannot believe this psycho was lying just below the surface. i was married to him for 20 years. i had no idea he was this obsessed or out of control.
Losing control does strange things to people. It doesn't matter what that judge said, you shouldn't be harassed this way. I've had a stalker as well and I know the emotional and psychological damage that the stress causes. Take whatever legal action you can and if you're not already, go see a good counsellor.
Peace.
Hi What,
My X used to come on the property and break things. I could never really prove it, so there was nothing I could do. He did finally screw up one day and almost got caught. My neighbor and my dad happened to see his car the day my firepit was smashed to pieces. The weird part was it was just after my divorce was final and I had taken a week off to try to get some things done around the house. I stayed home all week, but this particular day I went to lunch with my dad. I was only gone from the house for an hour. So who knows how many days he had been lurking in the woods. Like you, my dog is deaf, but was constantly irritated that summer. I finally had someone come in and cut a bunch of trees down around the house so I can see a good distance into the woods.
Be careful. I still don't trust the man even though the divorce has been final for almost 2 years. He holds grudges forever. Yours probably will too.
Hang in there.
camult
go figure! its just my luck that i was married to a complete wacko. and i had no idea!! i live in a gated community, so i contacted the security office to let them know he has no business here. they turned off his remote controller, but the guards still wave him through because they know him. (we've lived here for 5 years)
anyway, i had to email my friends yesterday, begging them not to buzz him through the gate unless they are expecting him. i hated to do it, because i have lost friends over my situation, and i don't want people to choose sides. but, if they were ever friends or still are, they will understand my plea to keep my children safe.
now, its not to say that he wouldn't park his car and gain access by walking in. i cannot believe this man is the father of my children.
what
That should not be right. Stalking doesn't involve threatening physical harm and yet a person can be convicted of it, as happened in my case.
I did have a tiny bit of a hard time getting the judge to keep the person away from me because we were not related, but as part of the plea bargain at trial they included the equivalent of a restraining order.
I am SO SO sorry. Do protect yourself. He has violated the court order and threatened the kids (to take them)--that should be enough!
M