OMG... WHAT AM I TO DO?
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OMG... WHAT AM I TO DO?
| Mon, 05-15-2006 - 6:44pm |
I HAVENT BEEN AROUND IN A FEW WEEKS... SOME OF YOU MAY REMEMBER ME... HUSBAND WANTS A DIVORCE EVEN THOUGH THIS MARRIAGE IS FIXABLE.. WE ARGUE CONSTANTLY THOUGH AND HAVE AN 10 MONTH OLD DAUGHTER. ALSO THE ONE THAT IS REALLY YOUNG (24) AND MY HUSBAND AN I BOTH WORK AND HE WORKS AT NIGHT AND TAKES CARE OF OUR BABY DURING THE DAY AND ONLY HAS 4 HOURS OF SLEEP A DAY...RING A BELL???? ..WELL MADE AN APPOINTMENT WITH A COUNSELOR ( WHICH HE HAS AGREED OVER AND OVER TO SEE WITH ME ONLY TO NOT GO ) SATURDAY IS MY FIRST SESSION. I HOPE IT GOES OKAY.
SO THIS IS MY UPDATE... ALL LAST WEEK I WAS STAYING WITH MY PARENTS AND DRIVING 1 1 /2 HOURS TO WORK AND 1 1/2 HOURS BACK EVERY DAY..AND FRIDAY THE SAME, DROPPED HER OFF AT THE APARTMENT AND I CAME TO WORK. WELL WHEN I GOT HOME SOMEHTING MADE ME TAKE A PREGNANCY TEST (I ALREADY HAD ONE FROM BEFORE OUR FIGHTS ) AND LOW AND BEHOLD IT TURNS OUT POSITIVE!
OMG... WHAT AM I GONNA DO.. 24 WITH 10 MONTH OLD, AND ONE ON THE WAY WITH A DIVORCE!!!!!
WE TALKED FRIDAY AND WE AGREED THAT OUR PROBLEMS WERE PETTY AND THIS COULD BE SAVED , ATLEAST ATTEMP TO.. WELL BY SUNDAY THE LOONIE HAD CHANGED HIS MIND..OUT OF NOWHERE!
AND HE LEFT FOR A DAY.. CAME BACK AND I HARDLY SPOKE TO HIM... WELL BY THIS WEEKEND WE TALKED AGAIN ADN I ASKED HIM TO PLEASE COME WITH ME TO CPUNSELING AND HE SAID YES AND THIS TIME SEEMED GENUINE ABOUT IT... SO WERE HAPPY GO LUCKY ON SATURDAY , EVEN SLEPT IN THE SAME BED AND SUNDAY WE WOKE UP AND HE DIDNT EVEN WISH ME A HAPPY MOTHERS DAY... HE CALLED HIS MOM IN FRONT OF ME AND WISHED HER ONE IN HIS MOST STUPID "MOMMAS BOY " VOICE I HAVE EVER HEARD! AND I WENT TO THE BATHROOM TO CRY , WHEN HE CAME 30 MINS LATER AND SAID WHAT WAS WRONG WITH ME... AND I TOLD HIM. YOU DIDNT EVEN TELL ME HAPPY MOTHERS DAY... THE ONE WHO HAS YOUR DAUGHTER AND IS PREGANT WITH YOUR SECOND!!! AND HE JUST LOOKED AT ME AND LEFT! AS IF I HADENT SAID A WORD.
LATER ON HE AKS IF HE COULD GO TO THE BEACH CLUB WITH MY DAUGHTER AND I OFCOURSE I SAID YES.. EVERYTHIGN IS PEACHY... WE EVEN SLEEP TOGETHER AND TODAY HE TOTALLY FLIPS AND SAYS NO MATTER IF HE GOES TO COUNSELING WITH ME HE IS STILL DIVORCING ME! I DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO. I STILL LOVE THIS SORRY EXCUSE FOR A MAN, WE HAVE A DAUGHTER WHO ADORES HIM AND ONE MORE ON THE WAY... I DOTN WANT IT TO BE OVER.. I TELL HIM ALL THE TIME.. BEFORE A COUPLE DECIDES TO DIVORCE THEY SHOULD SEEK COUNSELING AND HE STILL SAYS" I DONT FEEL LIKE IT" I DONT WANT TO" I DONT WANT TO STAY MARRIED TO YOU"
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WHAT AM I TO DO???? IM SO LOST ... I ALREADY ENDED UP IN THE HOSPITAL FROM ALL OF THIS... THAT IS ALL I CAN THINK OF.. I THINK ABOUT HOW I MUST OF LET OUR DAUGHTER DOWN AND HOW SHE'LL HATE ME AND THIS NEW BABY TOO... OMG WHAT IM I GONNA DO. I DOTN WANT A DIVORCE!
JILL
SO THIS IS MY UPDATE... ALL LAST WEEK I WAS STAYING WITH MY PARENTS AND DRIVING 1 1 /2 HOURS TO WORK AND 1 1/2 HOURS BACK EVERY DAY..AND FRIDAY THE SAME, DROPPED HER OFF AT THE APARTMENT AND I CAME TO WORK. WELL WHEN I GOT HOME SOMEHTING MADE ME TAKE A PREGNANCY TEST (I ALREADY HAD ONE FROM BEFORE OUR FIGHTS ) AND LOW AND BEHOLD IT TURNS OUT POSITIVE!
OMG... WHAT AM I GONNA DO.. 24 WITH 10 MONTH OLD, AND ONE ON THE WAY WITH A DIVORCE!!!!!
WE TALKED FRIDAY AND WE AGREED THAT OUR PROBLEMS WERE PETTY AND THIS COULD BE SAVED , ATLEAST ATTEMP TO.. WELL BY SUNDAY THE LOONIE HAD CHANGED HIS MIND..OUT OF NOWHERE!
AND HE LEFT FOR A DAY.. CAME BACK AND I HARDLY SPOKE TO HIM... WELL BY THIS WEEKEND WE TALKED AGAIN ADN I ASKED HIM TO PLEASE COME WITH ME TO CPUNSELING AND HE SAID YES AND THIS TIME SEEMED GENUINE ABOUT IT... SO WERE HAPPY GO LUCKY ON SATURDAY , EVEN SLEPT IN THE SAME BED AND SUNDAY WE WOKE UP AND HE DIDNT EVEN WISH ME A HAPPY MOTHERS DAY... HE CALLED HIS MOM IN FRONT OF ME AND WISHED HER ONE IN HIS MOST STUPID "MOMMAS BOY " VOICE I HAVE EVER HEARD! AND I WENT TO THE BATHROOM TO CRY , WHEN HE CAME 30 MINS LATER AND SAID WHAT WAS WRONG WITH ME... AND I TOLD HIM. YOU DIDNT EVEN TELL ME HAPPY MOTHERS DAY... THE ONE WHO HAS YOUR DAUGHTER AND IS PREGANT WITH YOUR SECOND!!! AND HE JUST LOOKED AT ME AND LEFT! AS IF I HADENT SAID A WORD.
LATER ON HE AKS IF HE COULD GO TO THE BEACH CLUB WITH MY DAUGHTER AND I OFCOURSE I SAID YES.. EVERYTHIGN IS PEACHY... WE EVEN SLEEP TOGETHER AND TODAY HE TOTALLY FLIPS AND SAYS NO MATTER IF HE GOES TO COUNSELING WITH ME HE IS STILL DIVORCING ME! I DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO. I STILL LOVE THIS SORRY EXCUSE FOR A MAN, WE HAVE A DAUGHTER WHO ADORES HIM AND ONE MORE ON THE WAY... I DOTN WANT IT TO BE OVER.. I TELL HIM ALL THE TIME.. BEFORE A COUPLE DECIDES TO DIVORCE THEY SHOULD SEEK COUNSELING AND HE STILL SAYS" I DONT FEEL LIKE IT" I DONT WANT TO" I DONT WANT TO STAY MARRIED TO YOU"
:(
WHAT AM I TO DO???? IM SO LOST ... I ALREADY ENDED UP IN THE HOSPITAL FROM ALL OF THIS... THAT IS ALL I CAN THINK OF.. I THINK ABOUT HOW I MUST OF LET OUR DAUGHTER DOWN AND HOW SHE'LL HATE ME AND THIS NEW BABY TOO... OMG WHAT IM I GONNA DO. I DOTN WANT A DIVORCE!
JILL

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Hugs, Brenda
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No scolding...you feel how you feel.
Anyone that has read any of my posts knows I believe in marriage forever. My concern here though is that a young girl is going to spend her time and life being treated like a yo-yo only to have him leave later. You know when a non Christian spouse asks to leave a marriage, God says it is ok to let him/her leave. God recognizes that we just can't make people do the right thing. In marine wife's situation, I would hate to think that her kids learn that this treatment from a man is ok and what should be aspired to. I certainly hope that her husband "gets it" and they work things out but I hate to see her squander her precious life on someone that doesn't love and respect her. The time and effort required to sustain a bad marriage takes such a toll on a person. What wonderful things could be done instead? From a Christian standpoint, what service could she be performing with the love and energy that is currently being taken by this man?
Anyway, Marinewife, I do hope you follow the advice of many and go to counseling with or without your husband. Please do let us know how you are.
kimberly
I bless you and your children!
Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~
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