OMG, what was I THINKING?!?!?!? (TMI)

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OMG, what was I THINKING?!?!?!? (TMI)
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Tue, 08-29-2006 - 9:23am

I went to my aunt's last night and drank too much....I called my STBX and asked him if he wanted to meet me for a quickie! He responded with "I don't want to catch a cold", meaning, he didn't want to catch anything from me! OMG OMG OMG! So, not only did I make the mistake of calling him, I made a TOTAL FOOL OUT OF MYSELF! AT LEAST I DIDN'T DO IT RIGHT? OMG, I can't believe this!

Today, I feel like I shot myself in the foot. I'm not trying to pass blame here, but if I hadn't been drinking and ALONE, I don't think I would have called him (I haven't yet)!

I had to share. I feel like a piece of garbage. Has anyone BTDT with something like this or am I the only dumby out there?

TIA,
Jennifer (dumby)




Edited 8/29/2006 9:38 am ET by momof2inct2004

Jennifer

Proud Mom of Travis (15) and Mandi (10)

and our pets, Sully the Dog and Till

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Tue, 08-29-2006 - 10:34am

I'm sure that he realized that you were drunk... and that's probably why he gave you the response that he did.


I'd just chalk it up to a lesson learned about NOT drinking ;-)


Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~

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Registered: 08-12-2006
Tue, 08-29-2006 - 8:39pm
Most of us have probably made a "drunken phone call" to someone. I know I've had my share of "drunken disasters". What were you thinking? You weren't (at least not straight), you were drunk!!! Don't beat yourself up for it. It happens and make it a "learning experience". And don't worry about what he thinks...it doesn't matter!
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Registered: 08-27-2006
Tue, 08-29-2006 - 9:21pm
Oh yes. I have since learned to never drink and dial. You're not dumb, just lonely. Or is frisky a better word?! LOL Just be thankful he didn't take you up on it. You'd REALLY be feeling dumb today. Trust me.
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Registered: 08-11-2006
Wed, 08-30-2006 - 1:18am

You know what, you are embarassed and feel foolish, but it was done in a drunken moment and you learned something from it! Luckily not the hardest way possible...things could have been worse.

Focus on the positive in your life (even when it feels like there is none) and move on to something else. You didn't do it, and best of all you realize the consequences. At you not learned something from this whether you went through with it or not! Then it wouldn't have been a growing experience.

Chalk it up to experience,...and check out the "Healing" Post I just made, there's truly something for everyone in it...

Best of Luck,
Hugs,
Jen

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Registered: 06-26-2006
Wed, 08-30-2006 - 10:30am

Jennifer, don't be so hard on yourself. You did something that you know wasn't a good idea to do. You were also drunk when you did it. Being drunk makes us all do stupid things. I know I've done my share after having drank too much.

One time when I was plastered I called my boss who I had a huge crush on. Without thinking I asked him if me and my friends (co-workers who he also knew) could come over. The next morning I thought "what the heck was I thinking?". Thank God my boss knew me well enough to know that the person who called him was a drunken me and not the sober me.

Don't worry about what you did. You know you wouldn't have done it had you been sober. Your husband is so bad that you have to be drunk to call him. Leave it at that. Next time you go out drinking you'll know to fork over your phone to someone so that you won't have access to it and do something like this again.