omygod the papers are here!

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Registered: 01-29-2006
omygod the papers are here!
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Sun, 02-19-2006 - 9:21am

I can't believe it- when I logged on to my e-mail this morning I found one from my atty. It said "I have attatched the proposed Separation Agreement from (STBX's atty) for your review. Please contact me with your comments."

I can't look at it. I think I'm going to throw up (on it!). It's just sitting on the printer. I couldn't even pick an emoticon (needed SELECT ALL option). Where's the "I'm going to throw up" emoticon when you need it? I'm not going to read it yet. Maybe later today. Maybe not. Help!

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Registered: 07-08-2004
Sun, 02-19-2006 - 11:06am

HUGS!!! It's going to be OK, I promise. Do yourself a favor...open up the e-mail and read it. I know it's not easy or fun, but I think it's better to get it over with so you don't have that hanging over your head all day. Take a deep breath, and just read one section at a time.

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Registered: 04-02-2003
Sun, 02-19-2006 - 11:13am
deep breath..... in and out..... inhale, exhale..... you'll be fine! let us know how it went.
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Sun, 02-19-2006 - 11:39am

Thanks for your prompt replies. I took a deep breath and read 10 of the 14 pages. Much better than I thought- he only wants the kids Wednesday nights and every other weekend (this was my original idea!). I didn't throw up. In fact, I'm smiling through my tears. Will read the rest later after soaking up ivillage support (the stuff at the end is probably the worst!).

Laura

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Registered: 01-29-2006
Sun, 02-19-2006 - 12:09pm

I read the rest. Not as good. He wants the boat and the silver and china. No way. Doesn't he have to buy out my portion of the boat? He put it under his name, but we were married when we bought it. Guess I'll have to spend $$$ to ask my atty. Also unacceptable was provision that alimony stops if I "cohabitate". Since he's cohabitating with his GF I think he has a lot of nerve putting that in. Has anyone agreed to this? Also, I have to live in CT (west of the CT river!). The town we're moving to borders the CT River on the eastern side. Not much wiggle room. He and GF live across the border in New York! Guess it's MORE $$$ to the atty. to deal with this. Oh well.

Laura

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Sun, 02-19-2006 - 1:13pm

It looks like he doesn't have a leg to stand on on some of these. Hang in there!!! Hugs to you.

Melanie

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Registered: 03-19-2003
Mon, 02-20-2006 - 5:01pm

It's been my experience that if there is a cohabitation stipulation in place, it works both ways.... so if he stipulates a rule, he has to abide by it as well.... and I doubt that alimony would be affected by it.


Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~

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Registered: 11-13-2005
Tue, 02-21-2006 - 7:38am
It is actually better to just pick it up, read it, and then sit with all the emotions (and tears) for 15 minutes. I had to read the petition for divorce that my stbx filed after 37 years of marriage...it was like pulling off a bandaid. But, don't reread it, if possible. Someone told me that this kind of pain is 'spiritually invigorating' if you can believe it. Good luck.
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Tue, 02-21-2006 - 2:21pm

I went to call my lawyer to go over the "sticky" issues and, wouldn't you know it, she's on vacation! We're cutting it close to our March 15th court date! Thanks for the info everybody- it helps to talk about this.

Laura