One year ago...

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Registered: 03-26-2003
One year ago...
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Tue, 04-05-2005 - 11:27pm

One year ago today, my divorce was finalized... I don't know if I've come as far as I hoped I would this year--I know that I'm still unsure about a lot of things in my new life... unsure of where I want to go and what I want to do...

I know that things I had hoped to have resolved all ready (namely child support) have not yet become dependable... I have to come up with a statement of all monies paid by my xh for the enforcement board so they'll know just how behind he is (over $5K just this past year) and even though they have told him that he has to pay them (the state), he still sends checks to me, which means I get to call them each time I receive one to see if I can cash it... they've told me this last one was it... they all need to come to them... let's see if he listens... as usual, he played dumb, as if he had not been advised, but I should not be that surprised as ignorance is his way of getting out of everything...

I still find myself feeling bitter from time to time... and I don't like that and am still trying to move forward away from that... the majority of the bitterness concerns his treatment (or lack there of) of his son...

I'm trying to be optimistic about things and there are days where I feel really good and open to new and exciting things... but I am constantly resisting the urge to stay within my shell and the safety of my home... lots of changes are going on at work too (as in my company just got purchased by another company, with all that that entails...)... so I guess it's not all that surprising that I still feel a bit in limbo...

*hugs* to all who have helped me get here...

Julie and Joey (who is doing pretty well with everything, if you ask me)

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Registered: 03-27-2005
Tue, 04-05-2005 - 11:57pm

Hang in there Julie, everyone moves on at their own pace. You will get where you want to be, just keep the hope. Well, just wanted to offer a little support.

Hugs to you and Joey.

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Registered: 03-19-2003
Wed, 04-06-2005 - 10:34am

He's pretty dumb!


Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~