Opinion please(LONG)
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| Mon, 05-28-2007 - 8:07am |
I will try to make this as brief as possible. I have ben seperated since Jnauary of 2006. The divorce is finally underway. I had my rebound relationship begiining 6 weeks after the seperation, took a recovery period(did not need one from ex-h as we should have parted 5 years prior.) I am now involved in a very wonderful and helathy relationship with a brifght future.
Intially, the childen and I (19 and 15), stayed in our martial home. AS part of the divorce agreement, we are selling the house. So ex moved back in in April to paint etc, before we sell, and I moved into an apartment. We split custody of the kids. My plan is to buy a smaller house once I get the equity. Anyway, I have the kids 4 night and he has them 3. I only see my boyfriend the night i don't have my children and i have been discreet as neither my boyfriend nor I want them to meet until the divorce is final.
My ex-h started dating someone, which is all well and good, however, she is over when the kids are over and my son caught them playing tonsil hockey on the coach. He is out of town with her for the long weekend. He is taking the kids out of town in 2 weeks. Tehy have expressed their discomfort with their father's dating practices and don't feel ready for his girlfriend to be part of their lives. They plan on having a chat with him this evening.
My opinion is I think he is wrong to not keep his personal and parenting lives seperate. I have decided not to get involved unless my kids need it. Given their ages , am I doing the right thing?

I agree with cbote.... your kids are old enough to communicate to their dad how they feel about it all, and it is best if you stay out of it.
Kudos to you!!!!
Karen ~ wildlucky4me
Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~
Nice.
My XH told the girls that NW was his "best friend" about 5 minutes after they met. They took it in stride because most of MY friends were guys and they had no clue that he met this woman on match.com (or whatever the site of the month club was) and hadn't known her long enough to develop a friendship.
After my honest-to-goodness best friend and I started dating, I realized that he'd screwed things up for me. Rosie was so upset by XH and NW's relationship, I'm still scred to tell her that he and I are dating.
Too bad there are all these idiots out there who don't understand what honesty is.
~calla~ mom to rosie and gracie