OT, but, my Dad fell off the wagon ....

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OT, but, my Dad fell off the wagon ....
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Sat, 10-22-2005 - 11:58pm
did i ever say "I HATE ALCOHOLISM!?!"

My brother just told me tonite. My Dad begged him not to tell me but Chris thought i needed to know (i wont tell Dad i know) b/c i do send Averey there with him some weekends.

You guys likely may have heard the

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Sun, 10-23-2005 - 2:57am

Oh Rebecca, that is so hard. My brother continued on with AA and continued on to have a bad liver. I was one of the few people who knew he was still drinking. (Died 12/22/04)

I understand what you mean when you say it feels like he's doing it to you. It is so hard to seperate the two, I personally, have never been able to.

Your post, though, helps me realize I need to continue on with my divorce.

Oh yeah, good for you on the phone message!!

Bonnie
Loving mom to Liam 3y & Tara 10m




"Only when we are sick of our sickness shall we cease to be sick."

~ Lao-Tzu, from The Tao Te Cheng
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Sun, 10-23-2005 - 10:40am

hugs i am so sorry for this..i really can't imagine how you are feeling right now, as i never had to deal with this in a parent. my ex had his addiction to pills but thats a different story. i never could count on him anyway.


i wish i knew what to say to you - i'm sure you know all the answers but this really hurts right now. hugs....


and give your ex a swift kick in his cojones from me! what a jerk! like this is all you needed right now....

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Sun, 10-23-2005 - 11:27am

Oh Rebecca I am so sorry you're going through this! You have been so strong through everything, I've been so inspired by continually reading your story... now this. You and your family will be in my thoughts, I hope it all gets turned around soon. Just keep going on your path and keep loving your little girl and dad just like always.

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Sun, 10-23-2005 - 2:16pm

Rebecca,

I've been thinking of your post some more and have some new thoughts. I wonder if AA is the best place for him to be right now as it is not fullfilling his needs & I wonder if it will actually only make him feel more guilty and you know how guilt feeds the need to drink.

I wonder if without letting your father know you know about his drinking but tell him you are feeling like he's been blue lately. Then ask him if he's thought about therapy and anitdepressants.

In the meantime I would be careful leaving your dd alone with him, you do not want to subject her to what you've been through. After all, is that not the real reason of your divorce?

Bonnie




"Only when we are sick of our sickness shall we cease to be sick."

~ Lao-Tzu, from The Tao Te Cheng
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Mon, 10-24-2005 - 10:13am
YUCK.... about Mike... and I'll definitely keep your dad in my prayers.


Karen ~ wildlucky4me


Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~

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Tue, 10-25-2005 - 6:42am
I am *SO* sorry for the loss of your brother. ((((hugs)))) & please see my post to ALL.

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Tue, 10-25-2005 - 6:45am

Thank you ALL so much for your words & your support ... & your prayers for my Dad.


There is nothing i really can do, in the face of addiction - the best I can do is let him know i love & support him, & pray he can find his way back to sobriety.

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Tue, 10-25-2005 - 8:19am

Great letter.


Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~