The other shoe just dropped - VENT

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Registered: 11-06-2006
The other shoe just dropped - VENT
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Sat, 05-26-2007 - 8:14am

EX is back to his tyraids again. Unfortunately, its the kids who suffer.

Just a recap: EX has OW 800 miles away. He leaves the same Friday to go to bike week to be with her as my father takes my son to the race in Darlington. EX works for the family business. My father doesn't realize EX left the same day (notice not given ahead of time of the day off) and arrived in SC hours before my father and son. Ex calls son, sons tells grandfather that dad is already in SC. My father puts 2 & 2 together and **it is hitting the fan. EX comes back to work and is basically told he has 2 choices - hit the road/ take a cut in pay. He is no longer salary, he is now hourly. I avoid EX for a week. Finally, Friday, EX is suppose to have the kids and take them to 11 yr DS baseball game. I have 11 yr call me if his Dad doesn't show by 5 p.m. Dad doesn't show. DS calls Dad and tells son he is not picking 5 yr DS from daycare. I call EX. He is drinking in another state and can not p/u 5 yr old. I'm 45 min away. I fly there and end up 5 min late. I call EX and tell him it was his day and he should have made other arrangements to have someone else p/u son. He tells me now that it wasn't in writing so therefore, I am responsible. All sorts of crap is said from him. Tells me OW wants to kick my *ss. He tells me he has me on tape lying. One of his friends called me and I remember the conversation and I told the truth. He is the one who lies. Anyways, I hang up.

Hours later like he always does, he calls and wants to talk civilly. I swear he just needs a sparring partner to take out his frustrations. Nothing gets resolved. He claims he will quit. I tell him it probably would be a good thing. He could probably do o.k. for himself unless OW financially drains him.

Oh - he was also upset because my lawyer sent him a letter saying he hadn't paid alimony.

God - I just want to move on and I pretty much have. He is now feeling what I felt 6 months ago when I lost my family. He is now feeling it from his ex father-in-law. What he doesn't realize is sometime when you divorce someone, you end up divorcing the family. Alot of things EX did while we were married, my family kept their mouths shut for my sake.

Anyways, the point of this vent is I just hope he realizes soon that what is inconveniencing me for the moment is causing scars when a 5 yr old DS is the last kid left at daycare and mom came to the rescue when dad was suppose to pick him up.

Thanks for the vent.

Brenda
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Registered: 03-19-2003
Mon, 05-28-2007 - 4:21pm
Vent away ANY time... he sounds very immature, and like it or not, they are his children and that responsibility doesn't need to be put in writing!

Karen ~ wildlucky4me


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