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| Thu, 04-20-2006 - 9:25am |
things. Ex returned the baby about 8:10pm. The exchange was good, spoke a bit and said goodbye. I get him upstairs, give him his bath and we were playing. Then he comes out with: the gf cry. Shocked I said what honey. He said it again. Called her by her name and said was crying. He said it Again this morning.
OMG. I mean she could have been crying for a number of reasons but I'd bet it had something to do with my jerk of an ex. I just hope and pray they arent yelling and arguing in front of him. As this would present a whole new set of problems. He gets him this weekend, I hope they take care of whatever the heck was going on yesterday.
Then my sister just calls me and told her he told her the same thing. She asked why was she crying and he looked for a while and then slammed his his hand down said it's daddy's truck. What the eff was going on there with them yesterday. He also told her I sleep with daddy. Im getting very alarmed.
Edited 4/20/2006 9:38 am ET by luvred2004

Maybe I should have worded it differently. Im sure that's all it was. I dont suspect anything harmful in respect to the sleeping statement but I am concerned because if the two of them were laying down taking a nap, where was the gf? I dont feel comfortable with the thought of the three of them laying in bed together.
What's confusing about the hole thing is originally he was to take him to PA, that didnt happen. So instead he said he was taking him to Long Island, he has a friend there and SHE has no carpet on her floor. Okay fine. Then there is the I sleep with daddy statement. Again they lay down to take a nap fine. I just dont want the wrong picture to be painted here. The three of them dont belong laying in a bed together! And I sure as heck dont want them arguing in front of him.
EX told you that they were napping---why he wanted to bring your son home later.
Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~
This sounds like one of those cases where your hackles are already up about dad so you are reading much more into this than need be. Your ex sounds very immature and flighty so you are probably going to deal with a merry go round of girlfriends and chaos woth him until he grows up. It is not going to hurt your son to see 2 adults disagree with one another and it is unavoidable, adults disagree all the time. You and his dad have had shouting matches in his presence so he is not naive to fighting.
Is your son well today and did he seem happy when he returned? If so then call it a success and move on.
Just my opinion....
Okay the one thing I have to realize here is that there will always be let's say challenges to overcome. Im not quite that used to it yet and Im still learning how to deal with the emotions as there will obviously be new ones that come up without notice. I do always try to focus on the positive ofcourse.
And I know there could have been a number of reasons she was crying. I also mentioned in a post to a fellow villager that im sure the nap thing was innocent, maybe my initial post came off as I was concerned that there may have been something improper going on with him and dad napping together I apologize, that's not what I meant.
However, Im just not ready to accept the thought of the three of them napping together. To me I feel it's inappropiate. Im kinda seeing someone and I wouldnt think of allowing me, him and my son to lay in the bed together napping.
It's funny you posted this- last night I had to take my daughter to the doctor for her ear infection (poor little chick) and on the way home she said "Go to daddy's?" and I said "No honey, we're going to mommy's" and then she said "Go to Kim's?" (which is his girlfriend) and I bit my lip and said "No honey, we're going to mommy's" and then she said "Daddy likes Kim"...again, bit my lip and said "uh huh". Though I wanted to say "MOMMY DOESN'T!" but I refrained :)
So was my ex sitting down with my daughter saying "I like Kim very much"- why the hell does he need to confess his undying love for his girlfriend to our 2 year old???!?
Oh how I wish she would come home and tell me daddy & gf were fighting- I would love for them to break up. But unfortunately they will be together for a friggin ETERNITY just to drive me nuts.
Though it is sad thinking that your son might be witnessing fighting- that's not cool at all. I would be mad if my daughter watched them fight, he use to yell at me all the time in front of her and she would start crying, broke my heart. She gets upset & cries if I am fighting with him on the phone. Last time we were fighting (well, arguing) in my living room and I noticed I hadn't seem my daughter in a while, so I went into her room and she was laying on her bed crying. Oh my God it killed me- still upsets me when I think about it. From that point on I vowed to never fight with him (or anyone) in her presense, and if a conversation starts getting heated it needs to wait until after she goes to bed.
By the way, I think the 3 of them napping together is innappropriate too. I would be FURIOUS. In fact, I get worried because my daughter gets up & comes into my room in the middle of the night sometimes (most nights actually) and I've asked him if she does that to him and he said that she comes in but he takes her back to her room- I hope she never walks in on anything if you know what I mean. Also, I hope he's telling me the truth and not allowing her to sleep with him & his little girlfriend. That makes me sick, I would NEVER let her sleep with me and a guy i'm seeing. HELL NO.
Are you going to talk to him about it?
Lainie
Edited 4/20/2006 10:29 am ET by lainie1015
I'm reading everyone's responses here.... and I'm going to toss in another viewpoint.
Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~
Girl,
I know exactly what you mean. My son too will ask to see her and I just bite my lip and say not today honey you'll see her soon. When he first told me she was crying I have to admit I was a bit happy (its wrong I know) but at least it made me feel like okay so ex is not being this Knight In Shining Armour after all. I was convinced that he was treating her so much better than he treated me and the fact that in the beginning he was telling me "she was worthy of being faithful to" didnt help one damn bit. As if I wasnt. WTF is that about. But he was a liar then and is now as in the beginning he cheated on her with me anyway. Again NOT something Im proud of at all. But that was over a year ago.
I too vowed to never fight in front of my son again with him or anyone. Seeing him cry like that is devastating knowing that I helped to cause it hurts too too much. So I for damn sure dont want him and her doing it either. I wouldnt let the napping occur with me and a guy and my son either.
As for talking to him about it? Whew. At first I wanted to but I know that wouldnt go well at all. So Im gonna hold off for now. He gets him again this weekend sat and sun. If he comes home again with more stuff like that then Im gonna have to say something. For now I will wait though.
But I know totally how you feel. It also makes me feel a bit hurt that they may be doing things that I would only feel were appropiate for a mom, dad and child to do together. So that stings also.
Hand in there lainie.
That happened to me last night when DS was watching a "very exciting" show about weapons of the future. I think I was snoring within about 5 minutes!
What lies behind us and lies before us are small matters compared to what lies within us. - Ralph Waldo Emerson