Out of denial...I married the wrong man.

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Registered: 12-28-2006
Out of denial...I married the wrong man.
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Thu, 12-28-2006 - 12:35pm

I've been married for 12 years to a compulsive, chronic liar. He lies about everything.

I'm married to a porn addict, who is unable to relate emotionally to me, or our kids.

I'm married to a man who everybody thinks is such a "good man," but don't see the selfish, arrogant, fake man I live with everyday.

I'm married to someone who says he cares about me, but was resentful, and jealous when I was pregnant, lost weight and started to build a life that wasn't revolving around him.

I'm married to a man I tried to be the perfect friend, spouse and lover for--but emotionally punished for doing so.

I'm married the wrong man. I'm 40. 3kids whose hearts I refuse to break. My choices:
1. stay married and divorce as soon as the kids turn 18. 2.Stay married and cheat. 3.Divorce him now and start picking up the pieces.

I have done a brillant job of faking a relationship with him for the kids. But I am full of contempt, rage and spite.

I'm mad as h-ll, and I don't want to take it anymore. I know can't be the only one feeling this. Please relate.

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Registered: 03-30-2003
Sat, 12-30-2006 - 2:14pm

Thanks for the kind wishes! So you are in Sweden, eh? I understand things are much more civilized and common sense over there, also with regard to the health care system. I would certainly love to visit!


Hugs to You,


Amy

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Registered: 12-16-2004
Sat, 12-30-2006 - 2:34pm

Yes I am Swedish and yes some things are better

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Registered: 12-21-2006
Sat, 12-30-2006 - 4:55pm
Thats interesting. I am half Norwegion. my mom is full Norwegion and her dad came fron Norway Stowed away on a boat ....a hostpital ship. to come to America. hmm that would be World War I ? I think?
Well our divorce is only 500 and in my state we only have a 20 day waiting period. I think alot of states are the same. you can also do your own here and it only costs around 200 with the packet you get to fill out and the filing fee.
if there is a squabble or anything then yes you pay the attorney by the hour and its more.
those with no money can even get Legal Aid to do it for free.
I think yes arent Sweden and Norway Monarchy ;s ? but they are good ones lol Norway has a King right?
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Registered: 12-16-2004
Sat, 12-30-2006 - 5:18pm

Norway has a King

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Registered: 12-28-2006
Sat, 12-30-2006 - 7:34pm
I want to come too. I hear it's beautiful and civilized.
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Registered: 01-26-2007
Fri, 01-26-2007 - 9:56am
Hello. I know how you feel. My husband is a compulsive liar. I am going crazy dealing with him. We have been married for almost 4 years and it is very hard to talk to him. He lies about simple things. Sometimes he make me question myself. He turn everything around in the middle of a sentence. I hate this. Everybody thinks just because he is a hard worker and provide for us that everything is great. My aunt tells me that I should just ignore him and go on. This is not easy. She just don't know how nerve racking this is. I am on edge. I really don't know if I can live like this.

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