Out of Sight, Out of Mind
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| Tue, 05-23-2006 - 12:33am |
How is it that a parent can have an "out of sight, out of mind" type feeling about their only child? I can't say for sure that is how my ex is feeling but that is what his actions are showing.
The attorney encouraged me to allow my daughter (2) to talk to her father when he called if it was convienent and to allow as much visitation as possible. I've been trying to call my ex at good times of the day so they can talk but he still doesn't answer or return calls EVER. Because of my new work schedule the before bed phone calls aren't working out so well anymore. I agree with the person who said that my daughter probably doesn't even notice her father isn't calling, she's so young that I fear that she will be closer to others than she is her Daddy. She already is clinging to other males (my friends Dad and some of our old friends) and asks for them.
I feel bad that my ex is going to have to work so hard to maintain a relationship with our daughter, but I guess I can't carry the guilt around....I will do my best to encourage their relationship and that's all I can do, right? We pray for him each day and talk about him in possitive ways when a situation lends itself to that. I don't let her hear me talk to other adults negatively about him.
I'm just sad, I want her to be close to her Daddy and it's a terrible feeling that the man he use to be would be devistated if this were happening...the "new" him doesn't seem to mind.

It's frustrating!... but we can't change it, and maybe just backing completely off will be the biggest eye opener for him.
Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~
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