Painful day

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Registered: 07-06-2006
Painful day
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Sun, 09-24-2006 - 7:22pm
Well, my husband, who walked out on me - relatively unexpectedly in June - came last Sunday and took all his clothes, the furniture he wanted, and some boxes he had in the garage. He moved from his sister's house to his own apartment this weekend. I had been doing so well in dealing with this. I am seeing a wonderful therapist weekly, and have since he left me. (He has decided he is no longer in love with me, and wants a chance for us both to start over with someone else...My life has been turned upside down, like many others here, I'm sure.) We each have our lawyers now, and I got the paperwork he signed - this has made me irritable and very sad this weekend. It was hard to see his signature! Can't seem to stop crying! I already am on Wellbutrin, (have been for about 5 weeks) and thought it was really helping...wondering if I'm going to feel better soon....I am embarrassed to admit it, but I keep envisioning him calling and asking to come back. Stupid, I know. We have no kids, have been together for 20 years (married for 12) and he was my best friend. Guess everyone here has been through this, and I am not really sure what I'm asking for :-) Just some support that what I am feeling is normal?
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Registered: 03-11-2004
In reply to: ctteach
Sun, 09-24-2006 - 9:46pm
I will give you support, hugs, love, etc. Whatever you need is yours. This board is a wonderful place. Pull up a chair and join us. I too take ADs and go to therapy. I used to be embaressed, but I have finally come to realize these things are saving my life so I am over being embaressed. I pray, wish, envision, my ex coming back everday for the last year and a half. My ex is/was my best friend too. What you are feeling is completely normal. Hugs, Brenda


Edited 9/24/2006 11:11 pm ET by mebrenda

Hugs, Brenda 

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: ctteach
Mon, 09-25-2006 - 12:17pm
Very normal, IMO. The number of good days will gradually increase. Court papers and things that remind you of the broken dreams can bring on a bad day, but these bad days will gradually become easier to deal with. I believe you will bounce back a tiny bit faster each time. GL.