Pick up DD from his weekend and...

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Pick up DD from his weekend and...
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Sun, 10-16-2005 - 10:22pm

she wasn't there. X gets DD every other weekend from 6 p.m. he picks up at my house on Friday and I pick up from his "so called address of one of his sisters" at 6 p.m. on Sunday. He CHOSE to move an hour away from his DD. I have a sister and a niece who both live close to the town he moved too. So either one of them picks our DD up for me and I meet them for dinner and then head home.

After the 1st two times of my sister or niece picking up our DD he called me and said "Next time you send someone else instead of YOU - I am not letting her go with them! You have to come and get her NO ONE ELSE!" I called my attorney and asked if I was doing something wrong with sending my sister or my niece and my attorney said NO. I can appoint WHOMEVER I want to go pick up my DD as long as it wasn't some dude I just met off the street. I wasn't doing anything wrong. Plus there is no reason for me to go I don't have to talk to him or see him. I have his cell # if it is important I can call him. Plus with this divorce my family doesn't get to see our DD like they used too (WHENEVER THEY WANTED BEFORE) because of the every other weekend. The weekend i have my DD my mom has to work and we can't do get togethers like we used too when we all can be around. X won't change weekends. So my family said screw him don't ask him for anything we will work around this. So thus I have my sister and niece pick her up and then I meet them for a quick supper so we can get back home in a timely manner. 1hr drive.

It will be worse in the winter because I don't want to be on the road that late in the winter with her in the car.

So today my niece calls me on the cell phone and says "I am supposed to pick her up at 6 right? Because it is 6:01 and no one is here." I said WTF?! Let me call him. I call him and say "hey where is she?" He says "With me!" I said "Well her ride is waiting for her." He says "Oh well I have until 6:30." I said "No you don't. You are to have her ready at 6 p.m. I have until 6:30 to pick her up." He said "J**** C*****! I am right down the road shut your ^^%#$# mouth!" I said "Just take her so she can be picked up." He said "We'll be there before 6:30!!!" I said "Take her f****** NOW!!!" He hung up on me!

This is why I don't go pick her up -- we can't communicate neither one of us. He knows what time I pick her up and no one has ever been late EVER!!!

When he was late the first time picking up our daughter I contacted Friend of the Court and they said if the time is 6 p.m. he has until 6:30 and I have until 6:31 and then I can deny him to take our DD. He has been late on numerus documented occasions "I am just leaving... I probably won't be there until just before 7 and on and on" But I still let her go. I have always had her ready for him to come pick her up on Friday he has never had to wait.

He knows when I will be there. When I contacted the Friend of the Court also because he went and picked up our DD from daycare and didn't inform daycare or myself that he was picking her up early like 4 hours early when his given time to pick her up is 5 p.m. Friend of the Court said he was in violation of the order his pick up time is 5 p.m. I highly doubt he would be appreciative if I picked her up early from him.

Still having issues with clothing too -- he never sends them back. So many of you smart women/men on here have told me go to the dollar store or Salvation army get some clothes for her and mark her name in them. Because my play clothes for her would be sent and never be returned and then her good clothes had to become play clothes and with him not paying child support who has the money to continously buy new clothes. My DD doesn't have Gucci or Donna Karan clothing but they are new clothes and they are clean. And never sends them back. So I send really hand me down clothing and still do not get them back. The clothes she comes in are hand me downs from his older niece and it might be a bright green top with yellow pants. My DD looks like a turd in a punch bowl when she comes home.

BECAUSE HE DOESN'T CARE. Just leave us ALONE!!!!!

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Registered: 03-19-2003
Thu, 10-20-2005 - 5:40pm

He sounds like a real pain.... I hope that... soon... he'll simmer down and work with the program.


Did he scream all of that stuff in front of your daughter?????


Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~

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Registered: 04-18-2003
Thu, 10-20-2005 - 7:07pm

No I asked my DD "Did you hear daddy yell at me when you were with him?" She said "No, why was he mad?" I said "Oh mommy and daddy messed up on the times to pick you up." She just said "Oh"

So I grateful for that.

I got a letter from Friend of the Court and it says the 1/2 lee way is to only be used in EMERGENCIES.

Which I am NEVER EVER LATE!

OH well I have a long time to deal with this bunhole and I am not looking forward to it. I know I picked him -- well I pick a lot of things that I don't like. haha!