Picture posted on the internet

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Registered: 03-06-2005
Picture posted on the internet
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Mon, 06-20-2005 - 6:46am

Hi guys,


I have a question. This morning I woke up to an email from my friend stating that OW's website was disgusting and that it had to do with my kids.


I looked.


There is

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Registered: 05-25-2005
Mon, 06-20-2005 - 8:23pm
I totally agree with Melanie...but I dont believe she doesnt know it wasn't right...I think it was posted just for you to see with hope of turning on the green monster inside.....
If she doesnt see the fact that it's wrong then she's just not right in the mind......
I am so glad you looked into CPS for this..if that doesnt pan out you should go to the police...get something legal going.....just so it's on file. Using the kids to get to you is just not right! This was no innocent act!
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Registered: 03-06-2005
Mon, 06-20-2005 - 9:01pm

I think your right, the more I think about it the more I just feel like the whole thing is just wrong on ALL levels. Taking a bath with my daughter, taking a picture, posting it on the internet, trying to get back at me by using my daughter, I honestly feel sick that she has such a mental breakdown not to see what is wrong with it.


It's more than just an error in judgement.


The problem? XH doesn't see anything wrong with it. He did tell me that he will respect my wishes and not let it happen again, but what I don't see... ya know?


It just makes me wonder where his head is, with her or with HIS CHILDREN. I hear the picture is completely gone now.... I hope so.


Thanks again guys.


Hugs,


Angelena

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Registered: 06-17-2004
Tue, 06-21-2005 - 7:54am
I was thinking, often an OW is very threatened by the mother of her partner's children. She got him, but, she doesn't have one thing that you DO have, his kids. The more I think about this, the more it seems like a direct attack on you, saying "He lets me treat YOUR children as MY own." Again, it just disgusts me. I definatly don't think you overreacted in ANY way and that you are really doing the right thing by pursuing this. She shouldn't be doing anything with your children that you are even slightly uncomfortable with. (((Hugs))) to you, I'm sure this is a tough thing to deal with.

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Registered: 03-06-2005
Tue, 06-21-2005 - 8:07am

I agree, it was an attack on me. I don't doubt that at all.


Thing is, she doesn't realize that one day, her obsession with me will get her into bigtime trouble. The more she does the more she hurts herself, not me.


Thanks again for your support.


My babies are not really in a great mood today... we have been up all night. I hope to get a break to respond to some posts soon.


Hugs,


Angelena

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Registered: 03-06-2005
Tue, 06-21-2005 - 1:54pm

Not that this makes it better, but I got an apology on her website this morning. She said she meant no harm to my daughter.


The picture is dealt with, it's the act itself that is disturbing as well. Hopefully this will change things. hopefully.


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Registered: 04-08-2003
Tue, 06-21-2005 - 7:11pm

I will probably get flamed for this, but...

I can understand your outrage, definitely. She did cross a line esp. by posting the pic on the Internet. But...that said...it doesn't sound like (and correct me if I'm wrong here) like your child was actually injured in any way or endangered...so to me, getting CPS involved is a bit excessive. At least where I live, social workers are overburdened as it is with well-documented cases of abuse and neglect...they might not even have time to investigate, and if they did, could possibly do so at the cost of a child who is truly in danger in the most literal sense of the word.

Just my $0.02, this should be an issue confined to you, your ex, his g/f, and perhaps your attorney if you feel he's not responding.

I don't mean to minimize your pain to you or your kids...just giving you a different take, FWIW.

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Registered: 03-06-2005
Tue, 06-21-2005 - 7:33pm

Completely understood.


I think your right. I don't think it was meant to hurt my kids. It was intended to hurt me, which to me, using my children in that way is wrong.


I don't agree with the "stranger" nudity involved, actually I have seen a picture of my daughter in the shower with her father. I didn't say anything about that because a) I

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Registered: 06-19-2005
Tue, 06-21-2005 - 10:25pm

In a perfect world, there should be absolutely no reason not to be able to post a photo of a naked baby...I have lots of photos of my kids au natural and love them.
Unfortunately, we do not live in a perfect world.
There are sick perverts out there who get off on photos of naked children...no matter what age. There is nothing stopping a pervert or pedaphile from taking photos like that and putting them on a child pornography site...a long shot maybe...but very possible in this day and age. If something like that were to occur, god forbid, then yes, this act could well have endangered or hurt this child.
Add to that photo a naked woman holding that naked child and the chances of sickos increases a great deal.

It was an incredibly irresponsible and thoughtless thing to do.

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Registered: 04-08-2003
Wed, 06-22-2005 - 5:31pm

Thank you for taking my comments in the spirit in which they were meant.

I am glad they've respected your wishes and I hope they continue to do so.

I am sorry the g/f feels the need to take a dig at you, that is immature. But at the same time, I would venture to say that you are also hyper-sensitive to anything related to her and your kids, though that's of course understandable, and just plain human nature.

My b/f has a daughter about the same age, and there is no love lost b/w me and her mother. But I am trying very hard not to do anything to antagonize his ex as it relates to her daughter spending time w/me, which she is aware of though she and I have never "officially" met yet.

Its a shame that people aren't more respectful of relationships and boundaries, but people rarely use logic when it comes to those issues...and I'm not excepting myself.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 06-23-2005 - 3:00pm
This is sexual abuse and child pornography. Very worthy of CPS's services! Been there, done that. If they do this, they are likely to use other methods of sexual abuse on the children. Not necessarily out of pediphilia, but revenge on the OP.

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