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| Mon, 06-20-2005 - 6:46am |
Hi guys,
I have a question. This morning I woke up to an email from my friend stating that OW's website was disgusting and that it had to do with my kids.
I looked.
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Hi Angie,
This is so irresponsible of OW. From what I've read though I have one question.
Why are they taking pictures of each other showering or bathing in the first place? Even though you didn't mind the pic of ex and dd still someone else was watching and taking a pic.
What if it was a pic of OW and DS? It all just seems so perverted to me. Please make sure NOTHING inappropriate is going on.You have said that DD is having detachment problems.Is this new or is this what always happens? It just really pisses me off when so called adults don't care how they effect the children for their own satisfaction.
I think you have made more than your fair share of efforts to get along with OW. Like I was telling my DD's and their friends the other day. How many chances do you give someone?
There is another little girl in the neighborhood and all she does is lie and manipulate the other kids.She has even lied to me. She always says "I'm sorry" does she really mean it? Only if she stopps doing what was upsetting the other person,but if she continues the she really doesn't care what the end results are. She knows as long as the other person accepts the appoligy she can keep doing what she pleases.
It's like the story of little bunny fu fu. The good fairy gave him 3 chances and he didn't listen. So she turned him into a goon.(If anyone is unaware of the story and would like to have it let me know)
I just think it's time for this good fairy to turn the bunny into a goon.
Just my 2cents.
K:)
Ok...
Let me first start off by saying that OW has a serious stalking problem. I got an email from a friend tonight stating text on OW's website, regarding this picture.
I quote:
"I called CPS. Here's the thing, they won't do anything because it wasn't done with the intent to hurt a child. It was done with intent to hurt me. THey were very nice on the phone, although the first guy I spoke to had me in tears. I thought about what if some petophile got ahold of it and did unthinkable things, but god, he explained it to me. I thought OMG, and it scared me to death. BUT, there is NOTHING I can do about it. THat makes me mad. What kind of a system would allow that? I did talk to a supervisor and there is nothing I can do. Not even file a report. "
Maybe now you have learned your lesson and will digress at this point. Unlikely though. You are only hurting yourself by getting all worked up after checking up on me countless times a day. I would think that such energy would be better spent with your children than me. I feel so bad for your babies cooped up in that tiny apartment all day while the sun is shinning and you sit at the computer
What is listed above in quotations is what I had on my personal forum. I started my own forum because I can't do anything on this site or my own site without OW commenting or starting things. So I kept things very generic when responding on here and on my own forum I let it all hang out. It's been up about 2 weeks now. NO ONE knew of this site except a few choice friends who don't even know my XH or OW. Not even my family knew about this forum. So now she does, there goes my privacy and there goes my fear that she will piss me off enough to react to her antics.
Yesterday I had to change my blog web address because she started viewing it regularly and my mother was commenting and bringing personal issues into my blog. I got a new blog set up and things have been quiet. Until now.
So, not only does OW see NOTHING wrong with her taking a bath nude with my daughter but because it pissed me off, I am the bad guy.
So please, all of the level headed ladies on this site, please tell this woman that taking a bath with MY daughter is NOT acceptable no matter how you look at it? It's gross and done ONLY to piss me off.
I am going to have to close down my blogs and my divorce forums. I am so frustrated. She will NOT leave me alone. I cannot have peace.
The rest of her comments aren't even worth responding to.
Sorry about the hat!! I just really wanted to say that what has been done to these children is wrong. It affects not only the child that was in the tub, it affects all of the children in the house. It gives the children the message that child pornography is okay. It gives the children the message that sexual abuse is okay. It tells each of these three children that they aren't worth anything more than a way to gain infantile retribution.
The result of the children getting this message? They are set up to be victims of sexual and other abuses. They will have low self-esteem. They will not believe that they are worthwhile human beings. They will see thier father and his GF as the enemy. They will fear thier father and his GF. They will have nightmares. They will have developmental setbacks and delays.
This is serious. It really does NOT matter what CPS says or doesn't say. These are the results of the actions that were taken. All of these children are going to need therapy as a result of all of this. Father and GF need some SERIOUS therapy!!
Angelena, my prayers and positive thoughts are with you and your children. What has happened to your children is a tragedy. Many, many, many ((((((((((((((hugs))))))))))))))))) are sent your way.
cl-Steph
The new IDEA is in effect as of July 1, 2005.
Do you know how this affects your child?
I don't know what to do about this.
I believe it is wrong. It's not really about her. Its about the kids, your right, was my 6 year old in the house when daddy said lets go take a picture of Miss Amy and B in the tub?
I called CPS and they said it was a gray area because the picture was not posted on a child porn website. It wasn't intended to be distributed for porn sake. He said and I am quoting ( without knowing OW or me or even our names ) "she did it to get back at you, and it worked!".... WITHOUT knowing me or her. He also said that just because it isn't a CPS issue that doesnt mean I can't take it up with Family Court. So, my plan is to call the law guardian tomorrow morning that we used in the divorce.
She seems to think nothing is wrong with this and honestly I don't know XH's opinion.
I know the OW has posted here before, but I wouldn't think she would want to now. I honestly don't think she meant to hurt anyone other than you, but you are right that there are lots of sick people on the internet and she should be ashamed and embarrased in hindsight that she had such a lapse in judgement. Most people understand that getting naked with children who are not their own is WRONG. Even people who believe nudity is natural and live that way, would not post pictures of it on the internet, and ESPECIALLY naked pictures of any children. I think most step-parents understand this is not a gray area, and she's not even a step-parent, she's a live-in gf. Your ex should have prevented it, but my guess is that he encouraged it. That blows my mind. My dd can run around my home naked and I can appreciate she's a child just being her free little self, but people who would be interested in seeing her naked on the internet would NOT have good intentions. I shower with my dd, but she is MY dd. I would never shower with a step-child and I would be very concerned about any step-parent (or any person) who wanted to bathe or shower with my dd.
I think she's firing back and attacking you because she's scared. And she should be. CPS may take this seriously or not, but she doesn't know what they'll do and they would have the ability to make it an issue. Attacking you is not the way to fix this. Edit: I see you posted that CPS will not deal with it, but it could cause problems in family court and at a minimum, it's not good for her or your ex at all. I can do nothing but come back to bite them.
If they had any good sense they would be doing nothing but humbly apologizing for their actions and they would be and sound sincere. They went way over the line, then they documented it, then they flaunted it. It's not the worst thing they could have done (physical or verbal abuse, or neglect would be worse), but it does demonstrate INCREDIBLY poor judgement.
Edited 6/23/2005 9:55 pm ET ET by firstamendment
I'm an old timer(5 years ago was here A LOT) just back and finally breaking free...don't post often but stop by lots to read and get strength through lurking.
I think whatever actions you take are right and I certainly hope your older child wasn't there to witness this, or had this done to them. I say this from experience. When I was young...around 5 or 6, my step mother FORCED me to bathe with her a few times. I was horrified and grossed out by seeing her nude. I couldn't bathe for months after that without a fight.
When I saw your first post I looked up the link you had posted to this "woman's" blog a few months ago and I saw that original photo. I was horrified. It brought back horrible memories for me. This woman was TOTALLY naked and even had her legs open as she was holding your baby. My step mother did that was well. My experience has had an impact on me for all of my life. When I came home and worked up the courage to tell my mother she went ballistic. I don't know what she did, but it did stop. Of course nastiness took place on my visits after that.
Whatever it takes you keep fighting for you children's safety. They'll remember that when all is said and done. And, no, this type of action isn't right and it DOES do damage to the children. I can't express to you the damage it did to me to see her naked and posing and touching to hold me or bathe me, or have me wash her back.
Jennifer
"Maybe now you have learned your lesson and will digress at this point. Unlikely though. You are only hurting yourself by getting all worked up after checking up on me countless times a day. I would think that such energy would be better spent with your children than me. I feel so bad for your babies cooped up in that tiny apartment all day while the sun is shinning and you sit at the computer"
To the OW ( who is obviously spending a whole lot fo time and energy following mom's every move)
Lady, obviously you are getting some sort of twisted thrill out of trying to hurt this woman...this MOTHER and her children.
Any woman who would lay naked in a bathtub with a baby on top of you, take pictures of it and then post those photos on the internet needs to get a grip on reality. Baby or no baby...what the H*** kind of morals are you trying to teach this mother's children???!!!
Perhaps she and the kids would not be cooped up in a tiny apartment right now if you weren't sleeping with her busband !!!
Lay off, leave her alone and stop dragging her kids into your sick games.
I second that!
Very well said and maybe just maybe this woman (term used lightly) will step back and think before she does something so dirty again..
I haven't read through all the posts, but I wanted to mention this to you...
Go to that website that has the picture on it, and print out a copy. In color if you can. While you're there, in your browser, go to File, and Save As... and save a copy of it. Reason being, if you try to persue some legal action over this and she takes down the page, you'll have a hard time proving your accusation.
Soledad
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